Post # 1
My fiance and I are getting married in October and our caterer is asking us to select 4 of the following 5 options for entrees: steak, chicken, turkey, salmon, vegetarian. I’ve heard that proper etiquette indicates one red meat, one poultry, and one fish option are necessary, but my fiance and I really liked the chicken and turkey better than the salmon option. We also thought that, since it’s fall, our guests would probably like some heartier choices, and the purpose of the fish option was to offer a "lighter" option, which we will
offer with the vegetarian option. Do we have to offer the fish? P.S. My parents are paying/hosting and my mother thinks we should offer the fish and pick EITHER chicken or turkey…
Post # 3
Hmm, since your parents are footing the bill, and they want the fish option, you should just give it to them. You’ll still get your chicken/turkey option, and everyone’s happy.
For someone like me, who ONLY eats seafood (no red meats or chicken/turket, etc.), I always like the fish option 🙂 But it’s certainly not necessary (I’d be happy with a veggie option as well). But really, it comes down to your parents paying, so let them throw in the fish.
Post # 4
I think the chicken and turkey are a little redundant. Is there a particular reason you don’t want the fish?
Post # 5
I don’t think you have to include a fish option since you are offering a veggie dish. But either way your menu sounds good to me. I feel like you have something for everyone.
Post # 6
Go with the fish option if it’ll make your parents happy. Turkey and chicken both sound delicious, but I’m with Karma007 — two poultry options seem a little redundant. Also, there are some people out there who won’t eat poultry or red meat but will eat fish, so it kind of offers another semi-vegetarian option.
Either way, though, it looks like it’ll be delicious and you’ll have lots of options. 🙂
Post # 7
I would go with your gut feeling (no pun intended!) Depending on where you are located, I think the quality of the fish can change anyway. I also don’t think fish holds up as well when produced on a large scale. I also like the turkey option, very different than most weddings I have been to!
Post # 8
I don’t think etiquette demands particular entrees… it’s a nice courtesy to give guests options, but I think the only way etiquette comes into play is that you need to accommodate dietary restrictions.
That said, two poultry options seems redundant to me… are the preparations very different? If it were roast chicken and roast turkey, I’d say choose one and go with fish. If it were roast turkey and chicken piccata or something, then I’d say both would be ok.
Post # 9
I see this was three weeks ago – how did it turn out?
You mentioned that you prefered the two poultry options, but you didn’t give us the details on what the dishes are. Would you include the specifics for your guests to choose from? Just mentioning the meat makes it sound similar, although that might not be the case. In the end, though, I’d not worry about this and just let my parents have their way if they’re paying.
Post # 10
I’d just give your parents this one. You really don’t need two poultry options and a lot of people, such as myself, aren’t necessarily vegetarians, but prefer fish.
Post # 11
I don’t think that fish is necessary with all the other options they have to choose from. At the same time, chicken and turkey are very similar so I would pick one or the other of those two and nix whichever you don’t go with.