(Closed) Reception No-shows

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: What do you think of this?
    It's tacky don't do it : (140 votes)
    95 %
    It's understandable people should pay : (3 votes)
    2 %
    Other (please explain) : (5 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    148 posts
    Blushing bee

    Yep, I could understand you fine.

    And I agree, it seems pretty tacky in my opinion. I don’t have any better ideas though :-/


    Post # 4
    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @RobandLil0107:  You are right. It’s exceptionally rude to charge guests for missing the wedding. What if someone has a legitimate family emergency and can’t make it? Just by putting that clause on the RSVP, it feels like you’re insulting your guests by thinking they have no manners. It also feels very money grabby, like you don’t want people to come, just send a check

    Post # 5
    9548 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    How in the world would you enforce that? Have people include credit card information with the RSVP? I’d never agree to that as a guest. I’ve never heard of that and would think it was really odd.

    Post # 6
    182 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    That’s extremely tacky and rude. I personally wouldn’t even bother to RSVP if I saw this. Also as PP mentioned, how would you enforce this “rule”?

    Post # 8
    746 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    You’re right, that’s incredibly rude and tacky. That said, my wedding was last weekend and we had a few no-shows (not many, just 2 I think) and I’m totally ticked at them! If they had just texted me to say they couldn’t come a day or two before, I could have let the caterer know and saved $50 a plate…but I think people just don’t realize that weddings cost money per plate. 

    Maybe instead you could put something on your website asking people to PLEASE let you know if they RSVP yes but then are unable to make it.

    Post # 9
    18 posts
    • Wedding: September 2013

    OMG NO way! Don’t do that… What a turn off. I wouldn’t even come to a wedding with that sort of invite! 

    Post # 10
    915 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    If you are really worried about it what about doing something like this;send out some cute little post card two weeks before your wedding that says somethinon along the lines of “we are so happy that you RSVP’d to attend our wedding and we are really looking forward to sharing our day with you on 1/18/14. We do understand that sometimes plans can change or things come up and we just want to request that if for some reason you can no longer attend our wedding please let us know as soon as possible so we can plan accordingly. Otherwiwe, we can’t wait to celebrate with you, see you soon :)”

    Post # 11
    643 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    What if instead you put something like this,

    “If you RSVP “yes” but end up unable to come please inform us immediately so we can take you off the list for our vendors. Due to budget constraints we cannot afford to be paying for people not actually attending.”


    Post # 12
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    That’s more than tacky. Do not do it!!

    Post # 13
    2009 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Holy cow!!! NO, this is not acceptable!!

    No, no, no, no, no.

    Post # 14
    182 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    So what happens when you have a no show, you send the bill and they refuse to pay…then what? Do you send thm to collections? File a claim with a small claims court over a $40- $60 plate? Harass them like bill collectors or telemarketers until they pay the bill??

    Post # 15
    341 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I just wouldn’t include anything about it on the invitations.  Everyone knows that it’s rude to be a no-show for just no odd reason…but things do happen sometimes.  I have never heard of including anything like that on the invitations…I would be horrified if I read it, just being honest…lol

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