Post # 1
So we’re just inviting FI’s parents and my mom (so the idea goes for now at least!). My mom will have to fly in, but his parents will drive here in an RV. Ideally, I’d love if we could have just our immediate family witness our wedding day, but with travel logistics and cost, it’s just not going to happen.
If you just had a “reception” (OK, a dinner) with 4-5 people, what all did it entail and how did your day go down?
Post # 3
idk but were kind of on the same boat lol
Post # 4
We are doing the same thing also. We were just going to have “BBQ” with about 5 people. all of my family lives 800 miles away.
Post # 5
We’re having a dinner reception with only our family, slightly more people since Fiance has 4 sisters. We have 25 people total and that is only immediate family. We booked a private room in a nice upscale resturaunt. Since we have a few more people, we did a custom menu with 4 entree options, 2 desserts and lots of appetizers. We’re allowed to bring in our wedding cake too.
I would find a resturaunt you both love and see if they have private rooms available. That way it will feel more like a reception instead of a standard dinner.
ETA: Here’s where our dinner will be. A lot of nice resturants have smaller rooms available.
Post # 6
Ladies we need to unite! I feel like the only one!
The only two restaurants in town that I would consider nice enough for a wedding meal, are places that we go to somewhat regularly.
Both have somewhat of a private room option at no cost.
I just don’t like the idea of walking across the full restaurant in my wedding gown to head to the women’s room, you know?
Then it would be odd if we saw friends eating in the restaurant and I walk by in my ball gown – “Oh hi, I just got married and you weren’t invited!”
We’ve thought of hiring a chef to make us a private dinner, but where? Our house doesn’t seem “special” enough!
Salt Lake City is 90 miles away and probably has TONS of options, but I don’t want to make my parents get a hotel. Part of the lure of inviting them out was to offer them our home so they can keep costs down.
If push comes to shove we’ll just move it down to the SLC mountains and find a restaurant there. SLC is not just special to us – we don’t claim it as OUR city, you know?
I have a million excuses, don’t I? 😛
Post # 7
a friend’s daughter got married a few months ago. Very small wedding. I think they had about 20 people if that.
They were married at the courthouse with family present. Then the bride and groom had pictures taken around town.
then they had dinner in a private room at a nice restaurant. they opened presents and cut their cake there.
the pictures are wonderful – everyone had a good time. She wore her wedding dress (from DB) the entire day.
Post # 8
@iheartsquishy: That’s a LOVELY room for your party!
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Could you do this at a B&B? Some have gardens (where we’re having our mini-moon in Williamsburg has weddings in their courtyard)- you and Fiance could stay there for the night, and maybe the owners would allow an outside caterer for the dinner.
Post # 10
Lol, Mr TTR and I are eloping to a Destination Wedding, and getting married Christmas Eve no less.
Our Wedding Dinner will be just the two of us at a Hotel Restaurant overlooking the Beach / Ocean.
As I am orgnizing all of this as a DIY event, there is NO Wedding Planner, NO Hotel / Resort Event Planner etc to work out the details for me…
Hopefully, it being Christmas Eve, and business a bit slower than most evenings (and not much else open), I’ll be able to work with the venue so that we don’t end up with Rubber Chicken, have Champagne available, and I can bring in our wee Wedding Cake.
If all goes to plan, it could be awesome… very quiet and romantic… *fingers crossed*
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EDIT TO ADD…
Good suggestions in regards to Restaurants given by others. And YES if there is a Country Inn or B&B with a Dining Room in your area, you should most certainly check those out too… many have top notch Chefs on staff… and lovely settings.
Post # 11
We will have about 22 people and we are having our dinner at a restaurant as well. There are pics in my bio if anyone is interested. I felt like the only one but I’m glad to see there are other bees out there.
My gown is huge so I will be changing into a short dress. I’m a little bumbed out about it but I’d rather not end up on LOL Snaps or something.
We are having a Destination Wedding so I don’t have to worry about bumping into uninvited friends and family but I can see how that would be awkward!
I feel a little bad about missing out on the regular reception experience on my wedding day. The restaurant belongs to our venue so they will be serving our wedding cake and everything too so that’s good.
We will have a little bit of dancing on the beach afterwards an then run off to a photo booth for some more fun. Not traditional at all but we are rolling with it.
Post # 12
It is your wedding and you do what you want on your day/for your day. I really wanted a small wedding like 25 people but it turned out to be 100. If you want a small intimate wedding, go for it.
I am sure it will be special and beautiful!!!
Post # 13
@This Time Round: That sounds lovely!
I had something similar all planned out at Emerald Lake Lodge! It’s in Canada. DREAM LOCATION! And you know what? They handle elopements all the time. I bet there is an elopement there daily.
FI’s parents would go to Canada if that’s where we wanted it. The issue is we (to be proper) need to invite my mom if FI’s parents are going and her non-travelling self hinders our location selection.
I will look again into the B&B options. We have three in my valley. One serves the food in your room (no dining area). One I know does not allow alcohol. WTF Utah!
Post # 14
You know I probably should not be so accomodating to my mom. She wants to fly out for a visit in August. We may be getting married in September. Frankly we don’t know and we aren’t ready to set dates right now. I doubt she’ll fly out twice so close to each other. If she’s not going to come it would be so easy to move it to somewhere more grand.
Post # 15
@sienna76: Have you tried talking to your mom and have you shown her that pic? You should do your dream location! It’s beautifuly breathtaking! My mom was reluctant to fly out to HI but once I showed her the pics of our exotic location she got excited and bought a plane ticket! if she’s not going anyway then by all means go grand!
Post # 16
@Broken Biscuit: She’d have to get a passport with 2 months notice, but then she would not rent a car/hotel by herself. I honestly don’t know how she’d get around? Ask my future ILs to get her at the airport in Calgary and chauffuer her around? They’ve never met!
If we did it locally, I would just tote her around in my car.
You know it was so much easier back when she had no interest in the wedding stuff. We did not speak of anything wedding for months after some rude comments from her. Then she says she may want to see it. That’s why I should not be so accomodating. Then on the other hand, my dad just died 4 weeks ago – her husband – so maybe she wants to be part of this after all.
Then again, I probably should not worry how she’s going to get from A to B. Maybe the location itself will nix the whole idea to her personally? Then we could say, “Hey but you were invited!” so she doesn’t get hurt feelings?
Ugh this is so hard!