(Closed) Reception on the invite

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
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  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    can you make them? we made our entire invites for less then $100…90 invites with 3 inserts, including pocketfolds, etc. 

    even if they are not on the Exact same paper- you can make them complimenting for very affordable

     

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    i don’t think that is tacky at all! that’s what i’m doing, and i would say the last 5 wedding invitations i’ve received included the reception on the actual invitation. unless you have a crazy unlimited budget, why spend $300 on extra paper that people are just going to throw away?

    Post # 6
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If you are inviting everyone to the ceremony and the reception, you can give the reception information at the bottom of the invitation.

    ETA

    If your reception is happening at the same location as the ceremony, you may decide not to use a reception card and want to include a reception line on your invitation instead. The reception line would be the final line on the invitation, and this reception line can be playful or straightforward, using such wording as:

    and afterwards at the reception

    OR

    Dinner and dancing immediately following the ceremony

    OR

    Dancing and merriment to follow

    Even if your reception is taking place at a different location — if you’d like to not use a reception card, it’s still okay to put that reception information on the invitation — it’s just less traditional. In this case, you would say:

    Reception to follow Gilfillan’s West Hill Country Club Camillus, New York

    OR

    Dinner and dancing at six o’clock Gilfillan’s West Hill Country Club Camillus, New York

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @MBeth912:  if you need any help or templates, just let me know. 

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Not tacky at all, save your money, and stop worrying about etiquette! You can worry about “etiquette” things that are “will this hurt somebody’s feelings” but other than that, I say throw etiquette out the window and do whatever you want, this is YOUR wedding, not Emily Post’s 🙂

    Post # 9
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Well, I am probably the exception, but, even though my reception venue was the same as my ceremony venue, and I did not, technically, need separate reception cards, I actually wanted them and purchased them, because I am a bit of a paper and printing nerd, lol.

    If your reception is at the same location as your ceremony, and, if you are using the line, “the pleasure of your company” in your invitations, you may put a line at the bottom of your invitations to say, “and, afterward, at the reception” (although I don’t know if you use the commas or not on an invitation.)

    Otherwise, I’m not sure if there is another formal way to add the reception information at the bottom of your invitations.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Quite frankly, I’ve only seen a few invitations that have the separate card. If you have room and don’t have a lot of information regarding your reception, then I’d just put it on the same page as the invite. 

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Not tacky. save your money and save the trees!

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    not tacky at all ! 

    this is what I am planning on doing too to save paper, primarily. =) 

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    This is actually one of the battles that I lost with my mother- she insisted we have a separate card for reception info because “it’s what’s done”. For me it wasn’t a battle worth fighting as it only added maybe $50 to the price, and it ended up looking cute. But I still hold that it’s totally unnecessary.

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    If your reception is at the same location as the ceremnoy, then you may add “Reception to Follow” (or “Dinner and dancing immediately following”) at the bottom of the invitation.

    If your reception is in another location (especially if the guests have to get from the ceremony to the reception on their own – i.e. you aren’t providing a shuttle) then it’s difficult to not have the reception card – there’s a decent amount of information to be shared – name and address of the reception venue, the start time (will there be a “gap”?), and anything else that the guests must know to find the venue/arrive on time/find the right party at the venue…

    If you have selected a font that is commercially available, you should be able to make your own reception cards that coordinate with your invitations.  If you have a very formal invitation you might have trouble matching the printing type (letterpress, for example) and/or paper type – but plenty of inviotations would seem perfectly fine with a DIY insert. (I used one.)

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee

    @MBeth912:  In etiquette and aesthetics, “less is more”. A single-card invitation is more elegant than a package of cards and slips of paper. Equally important to aesthetics is the rule “form follows function”. Reception cards hark to (perfectly acceptable in its time) custom of the hostess’s routinely inviting fewer people to the Wedding Breakfast than were invited to the ceremony. The reception card would be slipped in with the invitation of those lucky few who were being bid to come back to the house for a celebratory meal. They were, you see, two separate invitations for two separate events, both being included in the same envelope. Where wedding and reception were held as a single event but at two different locations, any necessary reception information was (and is) quite properly detailed on the one invitation.

    Since you are presumably not doing the much-decried “tiered reception”, you don’t need a reception card. Since tiered receptions are nowadays considered “tacky” by many people, you are probably being LESS “tacky” by avoiding a stationery form that might be taken as implying that you are having one.

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Lol, I really have nothing to add that … julies1949:  and aspasia475:  haven’t said already.  There you have it… 3 Etiquette Perfectionists all on the same page.

    Question… will you be printing / enclosing Response Cards & SAS Envelopes along with your Invites ?

    Or are you going the more traditional route, and hoping that everyone knows that they have to RSVP in a timely fashion ?

     

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