Post # 1
Ok I need some help. My fiance and I fell in love and booked a small chapel for our wedding (we were going to do it at a catholic church prior to this). The problem is it only holds 140 people. Now around here (clev, ohio) usually only half of the invited guests that attend your reception come to your church ceremony. (Doesn’t sound like thats what it’s like everywhere from other posts). Our guest list will be right around 200 people. I have tried and tried to cut it down, but my parents won’t budge on anyone else and with them contributing financially, I can’t really say much about this. So this leaves me with 3 options….
1OPTION #1.) (I saw this and copy and pasted it from another poster!)
could i do wording on one invitaiton that says something like: due to very limited seating in the chapel, please check:
___ will attend the ceremony only
____ will attend the reception only
___ will attend the ceremony and reception
___ unable to attend either event
I like this option because it will give me peace of mind…plus if somehow everyone checked that they will attend both, my fiance has already talked to his work people (theres about 30 of them who said they would have no problem skipping the ceremony if needed) and same with the 10 from my work if needed.
OPTION #2 Send out seperate ceremony and reception invites (ceremony to immediate family and close friends)
OPTION #3 Take my chances, knowing that I have never been to a wedding were everyone showed up.
OPTION #4….you tell me!
Would love to hear your opinions!!! I need help:) Thanks girls!
Post # 3
Honestly I have NEVER been to a wedding that everyone at the reception goes to the ceremony! It seriously seems like sometimes less then half of the people invited actually go to the ceremony they all just wait for the reception. I personally am having a private family only ceremony….we didn’t want something huge for that but we wanted a big party! I think an easy fix would be to make it family only…that way your not stressing. Another idea….since my guy and I are having the family only ceremony we are having two people video tape the ceremony and we will play it on a screen during cocktail hour for those who weren’t there….they can still see it. Hope this helps!
Post # 4
option 2 sounds good a girl from work did that because she had to rent chairs for the outdoor ceremony.
Post # 5
The last wedding I went to was in New York, and the reception has probably 200-300 people… The ceremony, however, looked like less than 100. I vote option 1 because even with 200 people, you have to account for about 15-20% of the people not coming at all (at least, that’s what I read in a bridal magazine!) Typically if the ceremony and reception are at separate locations, not everyone will attend the ceremony. I would bet that you will end up just fine, but if you’re really concerned I would send out reception only invites. I would be careful though, you don’t want to offend anyone. Just keep those limited to the people that you really don’t mind not being there.
Post # 6
Thanks girls:) My mom just told me she thinks its rude to send out seperate invites…I feel like I can’t win!!! Our guest list would be so much lower if she didn’t keep adding people!!! I agree though, I have never ever been to a wedding where everyone has showed up. Its never even been close…Most of them are about half. So I really really think that I will be ok. I’m thinking now that maybe I will just wait until we get our replys back, if its anything close to 200 we can ask the work people to just come to the party. Its just so annoying that I feel so stresed and I just want to get married in the cute little chapel and have no drama with it!!! I just feel like I can’t win
Post # 7
I think option #1 is great because it gives people the option to attend fully or partially without you telling them which they’re welcome to attend. You don’t have to pick ‘favorites’ or send separate invites or figure out a ‘b’ list. You just have to hope that everyone will be honest and not say they’re coming to both just to say it.
Post # 8
We had almost 200 guests at our reception but we only had 100 guests at the ceremony. We booked a small chapel for our ceremony too so it worked out well. We didn’t do a checklist/separate invite though the chapel was pretty small because I expected that only about half would attend the actual ceremony. I guess for your peace of mind, if you really want to you can put the checklist on the invite.
Post # 9
I have never been to a wedding where there was a different number of people at the ceremony than at the reception, personally. If it were me, I would find something to fit everyone or cut my guest list. Seeing as that is not an option, I guess I would take my chances.
Post # 10
I would go with option #1 if I were you… it’ll save you the hassle of people having issues if they find out that they got a “different” invitation (*eye roll* so silly!) than others. Like you and many other posters have said, it’s very unlikely that you will have a 100% turn out. And if by chance you do, you have the backup plan with the coworkers that have already agreed to miss the ceremony if need be.