(Closed) Reception only invite?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What option should I choose????
    Option #1, checklist on invite : (6 votes)
    30 %
    Option #2, seperate invites for cermony/reception : (12 votes)
    60 %
    Option #3, take my chances : (2 votes)
    10 %
    I have another idea! : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    191 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Honestly I have NEVER been to a wedding that everyone at the reception goes to the ceremony! It seriously seems like sometimes less then half of the people invited actually go to the ceremony they all just wait for the reception. I personally am having a private family only ceremony….we didn’t want something huge for that but we wanted a big party! I think an easy fix would be to make it family only…that way your not stressing. Another idea….since my guy and I are having the family only ceremony we are having two people video tape the ceremony and we will play it on a screen during cocktail hour for those who weren’t there….they can still see it. Hope this helps!

    Post # 4
    1735 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    option 2 sounds good a girl from work did that because she had to rent chairs for the outdoor ceremony.

    Post # 5
    221 posts
    Helper bee

    The last wedding I went to was in New York, and the reception has probably 200-300 people… The ceremony, however, looked like less than 100. I vote option 1 because even with 200 people, you have to account for about 15-20% of the people not coming at all (at least, that’s what I read in a bridal magazine!) Typically if the ceremony and reception are at separate locations, not everyone will attend the ceremony. I would bet that you will end up just fine, but if you’re really concerned I would send out reception only invites. I would be careful though, you don’t want to offend anyone. Just keep those limited to the people that you really don’t mind not being there.

    Post # 7
    4887 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I think option #1 is great because it gives people the option to attend fully or partially without you telling them which they’re welcome to attend.  You don’t have to pick ‘favorites’ or send separate invites or figure out a ‘b’ list.  You just have to hope that everyone will be honest and not say they’re coming to both just to say it. 

    Post # 8
    226 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2007

    We had almost 200 guests at our reception but we only had 100 guests at the ceremony.  We booked a small chapel for our ceremony too so it worked out well.  We didn’t do a checklist/separate invite though the chapel was pretty small because I expected that only about half would attend the actual ceremony.  I guess for your peace of mind, if you really want to you can put the checklist on the invite.  

    Post # 9
    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I have never been to a wedding where there was a different number of people at the ceremony than at the reception, personally.  If it were me, I would find something to fit everyone or cut my guest list.  Seeing as that is not an option, I guess I would take my chances. 


    Post # 10
    1577 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I would go with option #1 if I were you… it’ll save you the hassle of people having issues if they find out that they got a “different” invitation (*eye roll* so silly!) than others.  Like you and many other posters have said, it’s very unlikely that you will have a 100% turn out.  And if by chance you do, you have the backup plan with the coworkers that have already agreed to miss the ceremony if need be.

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