Post # 1
I am thinking about having my ceremony and reception at my mother’s house in order to avoid the cost of a reception hall. I would want to invite about 55 people and have an outdoor ceremony and seated dinner. The problem is the largest room in the house would only fit about 45 people standing if we needed to hold the cermony inside if it rains. We could have a quick-ish ceremony so people don’t get tired standing, but still there is not room for everyone I would like to invite if it rains. There is no room for a tent anywhere on the property.
This is going to be a nice, but not very formal affair. Is it okay to invite certain classes of people like close family and old friends to the ceremony, and invite everyone else to the dinner reception a bit later? Because our families are sizable and we have maybe 5 close friends, not very many people would be reception only. Maybe 5 or 10 max.
Rude? Okay? The people not invited to the ceremony would be our friends who we haven’t known as long or as well.
Please advise! 🙂
Post # 3
I, personally, would prefer being invited to both the ceremony and reception (especially if they are to be held at the same place, within a few hours of each other.)
Can you rethink the ceremony location? Do you have a church, town grange, community center, HS gym or something nearby that could accommodate and is inexpensive in case of bad weather? You’ve got almost a year to locate such a place for a back up plan – perhaps even using a local park for the ceremony that could accommodate a tent if the weather is bad.
Otherwise, perhaps host the ceremony for the select few a week in advance – so at least it’s not in the same short time frame in the same location and the uninvited won’t feel left out.
Post # 4
We are inviting people to our reception only. We dont want anyone at our ceremony (besides our parents they would be kinda mad if they wernt invited :D) But we are getting married in the Bahamas to avoid anyone saying anything about not being invited.
I personally wouldnt mind only being invited to the reception, i kinda find ceremonys boring :/.
Post # 5
we had our ceremony and reception at the same location. we invited 30 people to the ceremony (including wedding party and parents) and 100ish to the reception. for me, i’m terrified of being in front of people so if i was going to be happy on my wedding day, i just couldn’t stand in front of a big crowd.
some people didn’t like it, and some were more understanding. not very many oot people came, partly b/c of this and partly b/c it was on a sunday.
Post # 6
If the number is only 5-10 that won’t be invited to the ceremony, I think you should look into renting a tent outside so everyone can come to both. You don’t want those few people feeling like they aren’t important enough.
Post # 7
THe fact that it will only be 5 or 10 people makes it really awkward. Those people will feel very left out when people start talking about the ceremony. And honestly, the ceremony is what the day is about. People aren’t coming for a party.. they are coming because you’re getting married. It sounds like you do have the space outside for everyone. I would just invite everyone and hope it doesn’t rain. If it does, just squeeze everyone in. If there is some overflow into other rooms it’s a bummer but I think that’s less upsetting than being specifically not invited to the wedding.
Post # 8
If you do the whole inviting some to the ceremony and all to the reception with only 55 total guests, it’s going to seem rude unless you literally have about 5-10 people at the ceremony and then everyone else at the reception. You can’t invite 45 people to the ceremony and then throw in 10 more people for the reception. If that’s your plan, then I wouldn’t invite those other 10 at all. If I were in those 10, I would feel really sad that I wasn’t “good enough” to attend the actual point of the whole wedding day – your marriage ceremony.