(Closed) Reception only invite question

posted 7 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
Member
962 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I, personally, would prefer being invited to both the ceremony and reception (especially if they are to be held at the same place, within a few hours of each other.) 

Can you rethink the ceremony location?  Do you have a church, town grange, community center, HS gym or something nearby that could accommodate and is inexpensive in case of bad weather?  You’ve got almost a year to locate such a place for a back up plan – perhaps even using a local park for the ceremony that could accommodate a tent if the weather is bad.

Otherwise, perhaps host the ceremony for the select few a week in advance – so at least it’s not in the same short time frame in the same location and the uninvited won’t feel left out.

Post # 4
Member
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We are inviting people to our reception only. We dont want anyone at our ceremony (besides our parents they would be kinda mad if they wernt invited :D) But we are getting married in the Bahamas to avoid anyone saying anything about not being invited.

I personally wouldnt mind only being invited to the reception, i kinda find ceremonys boring :/.

Post # 5
Member
6573 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

we had our ceremony and reception at the same location. we invited 30 people to the ceremony (including wedding party and parents) and 100ish to the reception. for me, i’m terrified of being in front of people so if i was going to be happy on my wedding day, i just couldn’t stand in front of a big crowd.

some people didn’t like it, and some were more understanding. not very many oot people came, partly b/c of this and partly b/c it was on a sunday.

Post # 6
Hostess
18615 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

If the number is only 5-10 that won’t be invited to the ceremony, I think you should look into renting a tent outside so everyone can come to both.  You don’t want those few people feeling like they aren’t important enough.

Post # 7
Member
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

THe fact that it will only be 5 or 10 people makes it really awkward.  Those people will feel very left out when people start talking about the ceremony.  And honestly, the ceremony is what the day is about.  People aren’t coming for a party.. they are coming because you’re getting married.  It sounds like you do have the space outside for everyone.  I would just invite everyone and hope it doesn’t rain.  If it does, just squeeze everyone in.  If there is some overflow into other rooms it’s a bummer but I think that’s less upsetting than being specifically not invited to the wedding.

Post # 8
Member
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

If you do the whole inviting some to the ceremony and all to the reception with only 55 total guests, it’s going to seem rude unless you literally have about 5-10 people at the ceremony and then everyone else at the reception.  You can’t invite 45 people to the ceremony and then throw in 10 more people for the reception.  If that’s your plan, then I wouldn’t invite those other 10 at all.  If I were in those 10, I would feel really sad that I wasn’t “good enough” to attend the actual point of the whole wedding day – your marriage ceremony.

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