(Closed) Reception only invites

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t think so, personally. It might be nice to call them in addition to the invite just to let them know how much you want to celebrate with them at the reception, & explain the ceremony venue restriction (that way they don’t show up and feel left out).

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think it’s fine, but don’t send an invite with the ‘reception only’ and ‘the happy couple is registered at <insert store here>’ because to me I’d read that like you were just inviting me for a gift! Otherwise I’m sure friends will understand that the ceremony is full up and that obviously family needs to be there first =)

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would still invite them.   Most people would understand.   You could even say on the invite that reception is after small private ceremony or something along those lines.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think it sounds good, I wouldn’t worry about people at work talking- they will certainely find SOME reason to complain anyways =D If they can’t understand that they aren’t as close to you as someone else is…that’s their problem.  

I still think you should call or e-mail the people you can’t have at the ceremony and explain the situation a little further just to eliminate any awkwardness of them coming up to you and saying ‘hey so where’s the ceremony? I noticed it didn’t say on the invite!’ forcing you to /blankstare them =P

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@rosesarered: oh that’s not harsh, some co-workers are friends and some aren’t, nothing bad about that! I’m sure there’s coworkers you wouldn’t expect an invite from either =)

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I dont think so. I think its rude the other way around. I think what you wrote was fine.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree with another bee. State on the invitation that you are having an intimate/private ceremony and would like them to celebrte with you.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

@rosesarered: In general it isn’t rude.  Inviting someone to just the ceremony and not reception is rude, but reception only is ok. 

But I think to do so to one of your guests only. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I was just talking to one of my best girl friends who just got engaged.  She said that currently she’s planning on having a family only ceremony with a reception later.  So the reception will be Saturday night and the ceremony will either be the Friday before or that Saturday morning.  I don’t find it rude to be only invited to the reception.  I agree that it’s more rude to be invited to the ceremony and not the reception.

Post # 16
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Honey bee

Yes it is rude. But that doesn’t stop people who don’t care from doing it. If someone can’t be invited to the ceremony, they don’t get a reception invite, period, and vice versa. While many folks online say they aren’t offended, nor do they know anyone who has been or would be in this situation, countless people “in real life”, when faced with this situation are highly offended by it even when they are laid back about anything else.

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