(Closed) Reception or honeymoon?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: What would you do
    Accept the honey moon and keep cutting costs : (35 votes)
    70 %
    Accept the reception and plan the honey moon later on : (15 votes)
    30 %
    Don't accept either one (reason please?) : (0 votes)
    Other (please explain) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    2058 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    If you are happy with the DIY/budget reception you were planning, I say accept the honeymoon! If you were unhappy having a budget wedding, use the offer to have a more lavious reception! 

    Post # 5
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    2143 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I would personally accept the honeymoon and cut costs on the reception, only because my SO and I have discussed that our honeymoon is our one vacation that we are going all out on! 

    Post # 6
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    263 posts
    Helper bee

    I went to a wedding once where the bride’s gown cost more than the entire reception, and it was obvious to everyone there. We sat on folding chairs in an elementary school gymnasium and ate ham and cheese finger sandwiches that were homemade. Instead of centerpieces they tied helium balloons to the chairs. There was a cd player (no nice speakers) playing and sparkling cider instead of alcohol. Now, I have NO issue with an inexpensive reception, and was happy to celebrate with them, but she was wearing a designer gown, and a lot of us had already heard from her how she blew 60% of their wedding budget on it.

    My impression, as a guest, was that she was more interested in feeling pretty than being a good hostess. Her choice, but it certainly left an impression.

    You just need to figure out where your priorities are – hosting or playing.

    Post # 9
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    828 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It seems like you’re pretty set on the reception, so why not take the honeymoon?

    Post # 10
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    263 posts
    Helper bee

    In that case, if you can afford to do the reception (or the HM) well, then I’d take whichever one costs more. Always a woman of business. Wink

    Post # 11
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    2135 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Do the honeymoon! It sounds like you have the reception pretty well set!

    Post # 12
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    8359 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @QuietOne:  I agree.

    Also do the inlaws know the actual cost of the reception already? I would probably ask them a budget before deciding. You could upgrade or add things that you have decided to skip when you were restricted by budget (not saying take advantage of their gift but those small things that would make it better for you but have grudginly given up).

     

     

    Post # 13
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    420 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I say stick with the budget friendly reception you were already planning and accept the honeymoon.  I know I would regret missing the opportunity to go on holiday with my Fiance, but maybe that’s because we don’t get the opportunity to do that very often.  We’re having an extremely informal reception for a very small number of people, that’s very budget friendly so that we can have a honeymoon.  

    That’s just what’s best for us though, your priorities might be different than ours.  If a nicer reception is more important to you, and you can afford a trip later, then I think you should do that and wait on the honeymoon.  I guess what I’m really saying is that you should figure out which one is more important to you and your Fiance.  Is it likely that you’ll never get to do one or the other again?  If so, go with what you won’t get to do at a later date.  Hope this helps 🙂

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