- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
I got engaged in January 2011, and will get married in april 2012. Here is my problem:
I’m in my early twenties, and have been living with my fiance for a couple of years now. We rent, we dont have any debts (cars and credit cards are paid off), and we have about $18000 in savings. We are extremely responsible with money, and although some people think we are “stingy”, we see ourselves as “money savvy adults’.
Since I have been engaged, I’ve change my mind a thousand times regarding what I want to do for our very special day. Some of my ideas were:
1. Have a destination wedding – I wanted to get married in Cancun or in Colombia (all inclusive wedding packages are as low as $3000!)
But we eliminated that option because we thought it would be very expensive for our guests (family and close friends) to pay for airfare, hotel, etc…. Also, one of my sisters (one of my bridesmaids) is currently in the process of getting her green card and she cannot leave the U.S…. I would feel awful if she is not present in my wedding!
2. Have a restaurant reception with family and the wedding party – If we do this, about 30ppl will be present! and thats only parents, siblings (their significant others), and the wedding party (my cousin, my best friend, and his best friend). I think it would be expensive, tacky, and uncomfortable (because I will be wearing my wedding dress). Also, what about the rest of the family (aunts, cousins, uncles, GRANDMA?)… what about all of our friends? — I think it would be rude to invite them to the ceremony, but not to the restaurant reception….
3. Have a “normal” reception with all of our family and all of our friends. We would probably have about 100ppl… we are thinking about nixing some things like centerpieces, band, lighting, etc… offering a very simple buffet, wine, beer, and cake. The problem with this is: I think it will look very cheap! and we will probably end up spending over $7000… (food, venue, few flowers, beverages, etc).
4. Not having a reception at all! — I told my husband that instead of having a reception, I would love to take 2 weeks off to go on our honeymoon… We want to do an “EuroTrip”, visiting Spain, France, England, Italy, and maybe Greece. HE LOVED THE IDEA!
I am very confused on what to do because I dont want to spend thousands of dollars in one night (having a reception)! We have made many sacrificies in order to save that money! We can use that money to travel and to buy a house. HOWEVER, my family (specially my mom and my sisters) are really excited about organizing a wedding (I am the first daughter to get married :)). I told my mom how I felt, and she told me “well, you still have to have a small reception… its your day and you should not be worried about money!”
I know at the end of the day it is our day, and we should do whatever makes us happy… but I dont want to let my family down. Now my family is thinking that we are not having a reception because my fiance is stingy, and that “he doesnt want to give me the wedding that I deserve”
Any advice or suggestions?
Thank you soo much!!!