(Closed) Reception order of events – are you having the first dance or eating first?

posted 10 years ago in Reception
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Dance first. I don’t want to worry about our choreography the rest of the night!

Post # 18
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Sugar bee

We did our grand entrance after the bridal party and went right into the first dance.  After we were done with dance, we had the first course served.  We were super nervous about our dance because some of it was choreographed so it was best to just get it out of the way and relax!

Post # 19
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Honey Beekeeper

Oooh I haven’t decided this yet…are there pros/cons to both options?

Post # 20
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Blushing bee

We’re doing the first dance first. Since we want people to be able to dance as soon as they’re done eating.

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

interesting post!

we’re pretty locked into the order of events due to the set up of the space so ours will have to be after dinner and after the caterers remove the food display and tables from the dance floor 🙂

 

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

goodheart, I’m in the same boat! We’re going to have our first dance after dinner so the tables can be removed from the dance floor. Darn those small venues! But we’re still going to do the bridal party and Mr./Mrs. announcement before dinner.

This is also a good option for us because we don’t want to do the traditional father/daughter or mother/son dances, so we’ll just kick off the dancing with our first dance, and that’ll be it.

Now I have a question – how do you politely tell some guests that they need to vacate their tables so we can make room to dance? I’m planning on seating the younger people on the dance floor so I know they won’t mind but should I put a sign on the table or something that warns them that their tables will be moved by a certain time?

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

dance first, then dinner, then the other special dances and partyyyyyy

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I want to eat dinner first and then dance. Even though we’ve been taking dance lessons, I’m fine if people are mingling or talking during the first dance.   I don’t know that I want the big introduction when we walk in either, mostly because I don’t like all the attention.  Yet I’ll be the only one wearing the long ivory dress, so chances are I’ll attract attention anyway.

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

we aren’t dancing at our wedding, but my friend just told me about her wedding and how she was sooo nervous about her first dance and that’s all she thought about the whole time so once she got it over with she could relax. if that’s your case, i’d do it first. but from a guests perspective… i always like to eat first!

Post # 26
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think if you have to remove tables that you can maybe have a DOC or a friend go and tell them once they are seated that at 8pm their tables will be broken down.

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We’re dancing first. I thought it was weird when the DOC mentioned it, but I’m glad to see others are doing it too! Also, the DOC told me it gives the kitchen a chance to prepare everything to be presented. 

We’re cutting the cake shortly after..during the salad course. Is that really weird??

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We are cuting the cake after announcing (so it can get plated during dinner) then we will eat and do our dance as everyone else is still eating.

Post # 29
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Sugar bee

My DJ recommended dancing first actually. Since I had not thought much about it, we agreed.

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

We’re doing it first because I want to get up and dance during dinner 🙂

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m liking the idea of having the first dance first.  I’ll feel more beautiful dancing in front of everyone when my stomach isn’t full of food!  Not to mention, that can segway nicely into cutting the cake while people are still paying attention.

 

@elaineathon:  You can mark the tables that need to be moved with a different colored centerpiece or something.  Have the DJ announce after cake is served that those sitting at tables with the X-colored centerpieces have been nominated to form the ring around the happy couple as they dance their first dance.  If possible, have their chairs pushed up against the wall, so they can sit down again if they need to.

 

@littlebug:  Nope, cutting the cake during salads is pretty normal.  Most of the venues I interviewed with said that’s how they normally like to do things so they can get the cake cut and distributed before everyone leaves their places for the dance floor.

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