(Closed) reception problem

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Did you have a reception?
    yes : (34 votes)
    97 %
    no : (1 votes)
    3 %
    Went to dinner with family at a restuarant instead? : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    9551 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Sorry, I’m not really clear on the question. Could you please clarify what you’re asking? Thanks!

    Post # 5
    375 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think you are going to get WAY more people that had a reception than not – at least in my experience, it is really rare for a couple to get married and not have some sort of reception after. In fact, I have never actually heard of it happening in my circle or acquaintance, unless the couple eloped.

    That being said, there is no rule that says you have to, but I imagine it would shorten your guest list for your ceremony as well. Nothing wrong with that, just a likely byrpoduct!

    Post # 6
    5479 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    A reception is how you thank guests for attending your ceremony, so it’s kind of rude not to have one at all.  That does not mean you have to host a grand dinner and open bar by any means.

    To save money, you can have your ceremony early in the day and host a brunch reception, or get married at a non-meal time and have appetizers or hors d’oeurves.

    You can also have a cake and punch reception, but make sure it is not at a meal time so your guests don’t expect a full meal.

    Other cost-friendly options are:  fruit/veggie/cheese trays, bbq, cook-out style reception, champagne & dessert, or look at local restaurants who may offer less expensive catering.

    Post # 7
    4194 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    I still consider a brunch to be reception. If you got married at 10 or 11 on a Saturday, a brunch reception is a good way to save on catering costs. You might include mimosas for the toast, but you wouldn’t need a bar.

    Post # 9
    1755 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I think a reception is a really nice way to celebrate your wedding.  It is a nice way to thank your guests and to give them a chance to spend time with you.  There are as many types of receptions as there are gowns.  Assess your budget and figure out what you can afford, then go from there :o)

    Post # 10
    12974 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I also think it’s rude to not have a reception after a wedding, unless you’re having a really small ceremony and doing a small dinner after.  This is why you should figure out a solid draft of your guest list before doing anything else!

    Post # 11
    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Any post-ceremony gathering is by definition a reception (because the married couple is receiving their guests to thank them for coming out to attend the ceremony… whether it be at a restaurant, hotel ballroom, private backyard, or wherever) and it is not optional.

    When you ask people to come out to witness your wedding ceremony your hospitality obligations include visiting with everyone afterward and providing food and drink appropriate to the time of day (i.e. if the event spans a mealtime, you must provide the appropriate meal).

    Beyond that, you can get as fancy as you want – you can have dancing or other entertainment and all the typical wedding fanfare like the special dances, cake cutting, and bouquet toss.  All of this is optional.

    … But you do need to have some sort of meet-and-greet with your guests.

    Post # 12
    1375 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @sailor:  <– You put everything swimming in my brain into words.

    OP, you may of course host the reception you can afford, but if you invite people to watch you get married, you must host something afterwards.  It can be simple cake and punch, or brunch and coffee, but must be appropriate for the meal time during which you hold the event.

    Post # 13
    9551 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think there is just a terminology problem. I think I would define your MIL’s niece’s “brunch” as a “reception”. Anything where you host people to gather after a wedding can be a “reception”. I think it would be awkard to have a ceremony without something to celebrate after, but agree with PPs that it can be as simple as cake and punch. That’s what my parents had. But something where people can wish you well in your coming marriage. Brunch sounds like a great idea and there are lots of ideas out there about brunch receptions. I don’t know that I would say you “must” host something, but I think it’s a nice idea and I think it’s what you’re talking about, just different terminology.

    Post # 15
    2692 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I haven’t had the wedding yet, but yes we are planning on having a reception after the ceremony. If you want to save money, you could do a cocktail type of reception and just have platters of fruits, crackers and cheeses, chips and dips, lunch meats, mini sandwiches, etc. It could be for just an hour or 2. I have never to been a wedding without some kind of celebration after the ceremony.

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