(Closed) Reception Room Caps and Guest List. HELP!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
11351 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I would recommend paring down your A-list to 70 people, sending out your invitations early and allowing a long-lead time for your RSVPs to be in before you need a final count, and inviting the others (as many as possible) as soon as you begin receiving declines. The key to ensuring that you follow etiquette in this is situation is to not let anyone know that he or she is on a B list, so you would need to avoid putting people from the same social circle into two different groups.

Post # 4
1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Brielle:  I agree. It’s really hard to predict how many people will come. Some brides have 95%+ acceptance and others have less than 50%. Since you have a hard limit from the venue, I would not invite more than 70 people until you get some regrets

Post # 5
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I would have an A list and B list. You just never know if you might get 100% acceptance…

Post # 7
12976 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Miss Grape:  Be careful about doing the B list thing.  I get it and I’m considering it, but be really careful how you do it.  You don’t want B listers to know they were on the B list!

Post # 8
2711 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You should always plan for 100% attendance. So you should either just invite 70 or find a new venue. I would also not make an A and B list as I think they are rude. How awkward would it be when a guest figures out they weren’t good enough to make the first cut? Alternatively, how many people are +1s for single guests? I think what you could do is not give single guests a +1 and then when you get RSVP Nos you can extend them a +1.

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