(Closed) Reception RSVP cards

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh no you are making me nervous! I am in the same boat, but getting married about a month after you. Our response cards read “please write each guest’s name next to his or her entree choice” with blanks, as you said.

I guess if we get them back with Xs, we’ll do our best to ask who got what. I don’t think there’s anyone on the same response card who won’t be sitting next to each other, so in the end I may just randomly assign them.

How are you indicating their choice on their escort card?

Post # 5
724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m not doing this (buffet) but when my Fiance and I filled out a card recently, we marked beef and salmon but we didn’t use our initials, just checked marked it. We figure that the server will just come up and ask us what we got, and we’ll tell them. At another wedding, that’s what they did. They’ll have everything made in the right quantity in the kitchen, they just need to know who got what. I really wouldn’t stress. The servers will figure out who gets what, and they’ll probably make a bit extra in case people change their mind or forget.

Post # 6
2600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I wouldn’t worry too much – check with your coordinator, every place I’ve ever worked as a wedding coordinator had the servers double check and take orders around the table.  As long as you have an idea of how many of each entree go on each table and how many total of each you need, they’ll take care of it.

Good luck 🙂

Post # 7
1941 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have seen so many bee’s deal with this issue, I seriously am going to have people either call me to RSVP/order or go do it online. Either that or I’ll throw in some ugly little excel worksheet with columns and totally idiot proof it LOL.

Post # 9
145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t necessarily think the staff checks with each guest, but they do walk around and look at all the dinner cards.  If you are making place cards though usually you just do Mr. & Mrs. XXXXXX and so you would put both dinner choices on the back of one card, and then when they serve the meals whoever ordered what would be able to clarify that.

Also what I did to avoid the issue of people returning RSVP cards without names on them was numbered each individual RSVP on the back so if someone sent it back blank I could look up the corresponding number on my excel spreadsheet/address book.

I wouldn’t stress yourself out!  Just remember relax, and it will all work out!

Post # 10
562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

This has made me nervous too! This is exactly what I was planning on doing it. I was told that the servers do NOT ask what they ordered. (That could be specific to my venue. It’s not top of the line or super fancy in any way.) Seriously though, how do you make it obvious? Is there a way to make it fool proof?

Post # 11
562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

PS. I did not mean to stress you out at all! I don’t think people switching plates is that big of a deal. It happens to me all the time at restaurants.

Post # 12
4581 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Ugh. This is why we’re having a buffet style dinner! Why do people not follow directions? What part of “initial” do they not understand?

I’ve been to weddings where the staff double checks our meal choice, which I think is a good plan. It only takes a few extra moments to make sure everyone gets what they wanted.

Post # 13
1126 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I had the same issue on my RSVPs.  On my spreadsheet, I’m being really chauvinistic, and just assuming the steak is for the mean and the chicken/fish is for the women.  But really, I’m just going to have the number of entrees for each table, and have the servers ask who got each as they’re coming around.  I think the only way to protect against that would be to have separate lines for each name and have guests circle the food choice for each of them.

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