Post # 1
We are having plated meals. On the RSVP cards I put the instructions “please put initials next to entree selction” and then listed the entrees because we have to label each place card with the entree choice. I am so frustrated because people have been sending them in with an X, or a check mark or a number. I don’t know how much clearer I could’ve made the card. This is really just a vent! I’m just not sure now which part of a couple might’ve gotten the steak or the chicken so I feel like when entrees are set down people are going to be exchanging and passing and that’s not going to look good. Did anybody else do their RSVP’s like this? Did people follow direction? If not, did you call around and try to fix it or just let them switch with their spouse or something if they got the wrong one?
Of course then there is one person that didn’t even put a name on the RSVP card, they sent it back, no name listed, and X next to Accept and and X next to Steak.
Post # 3
Oh no you are making me nervous! I am in the same boat, but getting married about a month after you. Our response cards read “please write each guest’s name next to his or her entree choice” with blanks, as you said.
I guess if we get them back with Xs, we’ll do our best to ask who got what. I don’t think there’s anyone on the same response card who won’t be sitting next to each other, so in the end I may just randomly assign them.
How are you indicating their choice on their escort card?
Post # 4
I bought little jewels at Michaels that I’m going to put on the corner of each card—Red for steak, Brown for chicken, Green for vegetarian and Blue for child.
I figure I will ask some people but I didn’t want to sit down and call like 50 people to ask. Literally like 1/3 of the received RSVP’s don’t have initials. Everybody on one card will be sitting next to each other like you mentioned anyways so I might just let them swap an entree with their sig. other.
Post # 5
I’m not doing this (buffet) but when my Fiance and I filled out a card recently, we marked beef and salmon but we didn’t use our initials, just checked marked it. We figure that the server will just come up and ask us what we got, and we’ll tell them. At another wedding, that’s what they did. They’ll have everything made in the right quantity in the kitchen, they just need to know who got what. I really wouldn’t stress. The servers will figure out who gets what, and they’ll probably make a bit extra in case people change their mind or forget.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t worry too much – check with your coordinator, every place I’ve ever worked as a wedding coordinator had the servers double check and take orders around the table. As long as you have an idea of how many of each entree go on each table and how many total of each you need, they’ll take care of it.
Good luck 🙂
Post # 7
I have seen so many bee’s deal with this issue, I seriously am going to have people either call me to RSVP/order or go do it online. Either that or I’ll throw in some ugly little excel worksheet with columns and totally idiot proof it LOL.
Post # 8
I hope you couple posters who say the wait staff will ask are right. The made it very clear to us that we need to mark which entree on every place card so it’s easy for the wait staff just to look and serve!
@Miss Godiva- I thought about doing it online because it would be really easy that way too that they can’t hit submit unless the field is filled out correctly. It’s just still frustrating because I spent so much time making them just perfect and I thought directions were very clear and they can’t even take the time to actually read what’s written! In the end I do know it will all be fine though.
Post # 9
I don’t necessarily think the staff checks with each guest, but they do walk around and look at all the dinner cards. If you are making place cards though usually you just do Mr. & Mrs. XXXXXX and so you would put both dinner choices on the back of one card, and then when they serve the meals whoever ordered what would be able to clarify that.
Also what I did to avoid the issue of people returning RSVP cards without names on them was numbered each individual RSVP on the back so if someone sent it back blank I could look up the corresponding number on my excel spreadsheet/address book.
I wouldn’t stress yourself out! Just remember relax, and it will all work out!
Post # 10
This has made me nervous too! This is exactly what I was planning on doing it. I was told that the servers do NOT ask what they ordered. (That could be specific to my venue. It’s not top of the line or super fancy in any way.) Seriously though, how do you make it obvious? Is there a way to make it fool proof?
Post # 11
PS. I did not mean to stress you out at all! I don’t think people switching plates is that big of a deal. It happens to me all the time at restaurants.
Post # 12
Ugh. This is why we’re having a buffet style dinner! Why do people not follow directions? What part of “initial” do they not understand?
I’ve been to weddings where the staff double checks our meal choice, which I think is a good plan. It only takes a few extra moments to make sure everyone gets what they wanted.
Post # 13
I had the same issue on my RSVPs. On my spreadsheet, I’m being really chauvinistic, and just assuming the steak is for the mean and the chicken/fish is for the women. But really, I’m just going to have the number of entrees for each table, and have the servers ask who got each as they’re coming around. I think the only way to protect against that would be to have separate lines for each name and have guests circle the food choice for each of them.
Post # 14
@L2sweetpea: What a great idea to put numbers on the back of cards! I wish I thought of that!
Miss OBG- I think that having a line for each guest and having them circle is another good way of preventing this problem. I would’ve done it that way with a number on the back if I had forseen this problem!
One of my friends that I’m inviting didn’t stick the RSVP in the mail instead she filled it out in front of me and was going to hand it to me (it was already stamped, addressed and my Dad is keeping track of them all but, oh well). So I told her before that people were having a hard time reading the directions and right in front of me she put a check next to chicken…she then put her initials but said it was an automatic thing, she felt like a check should go there.