Post # 1
Curious to see how long everyone’s reception lasted. Our ceremony starts at 5:00 and we are only able to stay at the venue for 5 hours from the ceremony start time (the ceremony & reception is at the same venue). The cocktail hour is from 5:30 – 6:30 then we are going right into our first dance right before the plated dinner, which will start immediately after that. I’m assuming that it will take people about 30 minutes to eat dinner & then we are doing the cake cutting, garter/bouquet toss towards the end of dinner. So I’m thinking all of this will be done around 7:30/7:45. If this is how the timing pans out, guests will have about or a little less than 2.5 hours to dance, have fun & hang out. Do you think this is enough time for “party” part of the reception? I’m debating on adding an additional hour onto the reception but it’s an extra $500 & we are already over our budget.
Post # 2
That is a lot of money for an extra hour… my wedding will go like this (give or take – we have some schedule challenged familiy members):
4:00 ceremony upstairs
4:30 move to reception site downstairs
– 30 min for people to find thier seats, get some drinks, mill about
5:00 people start getting their foods
6:00 cake cutting
6:20 dancing stuff starts
8:30 bride and groom leave
9:30 all the guests better get gone.
So the whole thing is about 5.5 hours and I think it sounds like plenty of time to me.
Post # 3
Mine was 5.5-6 hours from the start of ceremony until the last shuttle left and that was about 1 hour too long for me so I think you’re good.
I don’t know how many guests you have or how many courses you’re serving but I would be surprised if dinner service tajes less than 45 minutes, FYI. If it’s a very large group or you’re doing more than 2 courses it could easily take an hour.
Post # 4
Is it rude to write 5-11pm on an invitation if the venue charges so much for extra time?!
Post # 5
My fiance and I DJ, emcee and do day-of coordination for weddings, and coming from the people that play the music, I think about 3 hours if perfect for dancing. Its enough time for people to have fun, but not so long the start getting bored and run out of the really good dance music. The time frame of things also depends on if you are getting married at the same location or if you will have a larger gap in between. Most of the weddings we work, whether ceremony at the same location or elsewhere, goes something like this:
5:00 Ceremony Starts
5:30 Ceremony Ends
5:30-6:30 Cocktail Hour
6:35 Bridal Party Intros
6:40 Dinner Blessing/Dinner Served
7:35 Cake Cutting
7:45 First Dances
7:55 Dancing Begins
10:55 Last Dance
11:00 Reception Ends
We have found that flow usually works the best, as well as doing the bride and groom first dance right after intros and then doing the parent dances later.
$500 seems like a lot to go an extra hour. Is that for the venue or the DJ? We don’t charge by the hour, so when we DJ a wedding we are just there as long as they need us.
Post # 6
It’s $500 for an extra hour at the venue. Like you guys, our DJ is there until the reception is over.
We are having 155 people and each person at the table is served at the same time by the staff. The Venue Manager assured with that many people, it will take about 10 minutes to get plates to everyone as there are 20 tables with 8 people at each. The staff/servers do not leave the kitchen until they have everyone’s plate ready for the table.
Post # 7
Here’s an outline of how our ceremony/reception will go, and we also only have the venue for 5 hours. Honestly, I think 5 hours is great amount of time, and I would not add another hour, especially for $500.
5:00 – Ceremony begins
5:30 – Ceremony ends, family formal pictures begin, cocktail ‘hour’ begins
6:10 – Pictures end, cocktail ‘hour’ ends, reception grand entrance, speeches
6:20 – First Dance
6:30 – Buffet opens (180 people)
7:30 – Father daughter/mother son dance while dinner is being finished
7:45 – Cake cutting once dinner is cleared
8:00 – Open dancing, cake is served, dessert bar opens
9:55 – Bride and Groom exit
10:00 – Music needs to be off, guests start leaving
10:15 – Last shuttle leaves
Post # 8
For $500 I would say not to do it if you are already over budget. My theory is if the guests still want to party after the wedding, they can go out on the town. Haha. Then you are your new hubby can head out because I feel like most bride and grooms are ready for some rest after the big day!
Post # 9
Sounds like a plan! Thanks so much for your advice 🙂