(Closed) Reception timing and flow… a disagreement

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t necessarily think your parents are wrong – however, given the food you will be having, it is not like you can just have your meat station, as an example, open for hours so your guests can come grab food whenever.  On this one, I do agree with you – I think the food you will be serving (though not a full buffet, per say) is heavy enough to warrant a sit-down time during the evening.  You can then also do speeches at this time and won’t have people all over the place.

Check with your venue about serving the food though.  I know my venue has a time limit in which food must be served for health and sanitation reasons (including the kitchen rules and when everything gets cooked and prepared according to their timelines).  It may be that you can’t just have it open for an extended period of time and that it is more practical because of this to just have the “dinner” portion of the evening and the dance and mingling later on.  I would definitely check with your venue on this one.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

i’ve been to 4 weddings….3 were sit down dinners……the one was a buffet and it was not open the entire time….that being said, i’m not sure i’ve ever heard of it done the way ur parents are suggesting…i’m not sure tho.. 

i kno that probly doesnt help…sorry!

Post # 5
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7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I went to a wedding in September where there was a separate cocktail hour, but the food was buffet style and left out all night so people were just grazing. It worked fine. It was under a tent so everyone was in the same area anwyays and then the MC just announced things as they were happening. I think you would be okay if you did this. I actually think people might enjoy it more because then they could eat as they were hungry as opposed to at a set time.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I have been to what I guess would be a “cross”. The littler stations stayed up all night but the meat carving and most of the “meats” came out for about an hour or so. Basically anything that you really needed a plate for stayed for the dinner portion but things that could be picked up and stay in your hands stayed out. I loved it. All of our friends talk about how it was a great wedding because the food was out all night and delish. It helps keep people less drunk as well 🙂 Hope this Helps!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

@Miss Beach: This is exactly how our reception was planned and turned out, so I agree with your Mom. We also had manned stations with chefs, preparing everything as each person requested,so all areas were left open all night. It was called a ‘continuous cocktail party’ by the caterers, but honestly? We should just have had a seated dinner, as most people sat and ate at the same time anyway. It also would have cost less money. Even tho all food was available, at a certain point people stopped eating anyway.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

I was disappointed in that it really was like every other reception,tho the caterers promised us it wouldn’t be. We were also on the water with the ceremony on the beach adjacent the yacht club, so cocktails were on the decks immediately following and the outside setup was the seafood buffet/raw bar, mashed potato bar, crudite & dips, fresh fruit with butlered hot & cold hor d’ouerves, signature drinks,open bar. We didn’t want anyone inside so we directed that portion to remain outside as the evening was beautiful.

 Our guests were called in by the head chef & DJ and their signal was a particular song. Guests then looked for their placecards,signed the guestbook, grabbed some drinks and found their seats. Bridal party was announced, chef stations were then open, music began…people ate ,danced, drank, went outside, stayed inside……..everyone was everywhere, but the majority of people were dancing.

I think if you over think it, you may be disappointed. Let the venue offer some suggestions as they’ve done this many more times than any of us have. I’m sure it will all work out as it should and as you want.

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