Post # 1
So this is more just to get opinions and figure out if I’m like the most irresponsible bride ever. My sister just flipped out on me for not having formally asked people to give toasts. This would be her (matron of honor), my friend (maid of honor), FI’s friend (best man), and my father (my parents are hosting the reception). I was planning to check in with everyone about this, but I sort of figured that it goes without saying that all of these people are invited to give toasts at the reception. I called my Dad to confirm, and he was like, "Um, yeah I’m planning to give a toast. Isn’t kind of standard htat I would?"
I have been somewhat of a slcaker, only sent the final time for the rehearsal today though I’ve told everyone (except I guess my sister and my Mom forgot)…but I thought my sister was over-reacting. I chalked it up to her being 37 1/2 weeks pregnant, and I’m not real upset about it. But I’m now wondering if these things are standard or not.
Post # 3
I always figured it was standard for the Maid/Matron of Honor, Best Man and FOB to give a toast. We did ask but only to remind them to have a speech ready 🙂 I did remind my dad who forgot he was supposed to but hey Im his only daughter! I would think the only reason to formally ask someone would be when you are asking someone that would not normally give a toast (friend, aunt, etc).
Post # 4
i read somewhere it is not mandatory for the Maid/Matron of Honor to give a toast, so if you’d like her to i think she should be asked.
Post # 5
I, too, assumed it was standard, but my Maid/Matron of Honor gave me quite a look of surprise when I mentioned it to her (she ended up not doing one). Our DJ also asked us to confirm who was giving toasts so he would know about microphone placement and timing and everything.
Post # 6
Maid/Matron of Honor, FOB and Bridesmaid or Best Man are standard but it is always a good idea to ask and remind them!
If you would like anyone else, cousin, uncle, etc to talk…ask 🙂