Post # 1
I’ve had the hardest time booking a reception venue. We had one picked at a local university, but hadn’t signed the contract yet. It took the caterer (that we have to use for this venue) 1.5 weeks to call us back and then another week to give us a pretty simple price proposal (is that normal??).
Then, I told the venue we wanted to sign a contract. They sent me one that needed to be revised, and then it took a week and a half to get a revised contract, and it’s not even what we want! I’m really worried that if they act like this now before I sign a contract, it could be bad news down the road. I’m not sure how to tell them that I think they totally dropped the ball.
I finally broke down and started looking at other options, in case this one couldn’t be redeemed. I found a great possible location out in the forest, but it’s about 35 minutes from the church we’re getting married at downtown. I’m thinking that is probably way too far to ask guests to drive to. However, it would save us about $700-$1000 (and that’s a lot for a bride on a $8K budget).
What are your thoughts? I still love the original venue, but it’s making me nervous.
Post # 3
I had my wedding about 45 minutes out of the area where any guests that we would consider local lived, but both the ceremony and reception were there, and out of town guests got hotels nearby.
I think it’s still ok, because it’s your ceremony that’s close, and your reception that’s farther away. While we all know that the ceremony is the point of a wedding, the party is the main attraction. If it was reversed, I’d still say it’s ok but be prepared for people to skip the ceremony.
Where I live, it’s pretty much 30 minutes to get anywhere, so I wouldn’t even blink at being asked to drive 35 minutes.
Post # 4
I don’t mind that.. 45 mins- an hour.. I’m probably going to be starving and want to stab someones eyes out if it takes me forever to get their.
Post # 5
I have been to a wedding where the reception was about a half hour away. The drive wasn’t that bad.
@SapphireSun: The same for me, It takes me at least a half hour to get anywhere from my house, so it doesn’t phase me either.
Post # 6
@rubberduckie: Our ceremony and reception are about an hour away from each other sans traffic and the hotel most of our guests are staying at is down the street from the reception. For our Out of Town guests we’re getting a bus but the locals are on their own :/ The drive itself is really pretty though so at least there’s that!
Post # 7
Thanks for your input, ladies!
Post # 8
Our reception venue is about 35 minutes away from the church where we’re getting married. I don’t think it’s a big deal. My Fiance and I just went to a wedding where the reception venue was an hour away from the church… we thought that was a little much but we still did it!
Post # 9
I guess it may depend on what is normal commuting time for your area, but to me half an hour really isn’t a long drive, so I wouldn’t mind at all.
Post # 10
i think the bigger question for me would be how far is the reception site from the hotel guests will be staying at?
Post # 11
Not a big deal, we are having a our ceremony and reception at the same location, however, the venue is 1.5 hrs away from where we live and from where most of the guests will be coming from and its also about 25 minutes away from any hotels. But it was the perfect place for us, its an old plantation house that is now a Bed and Breakfast! we couldnt pass it up 🙂
Post # 12
I don’t think that is so bad! My reception is about 40 minutes away from my church, and while it’s farther than I had hoped, everyone I have talked to about it hasn’t even blinked when I told them how far apart they were. It’s your wedding – people will go where you tell them!
Post # 13
We’ve been to weddings where there has been a significant drive…most of them provided transportation from some leg of the trip…like people drove from the church to the hotel, and then transportation was provided from the hotel to the reception venue and back…you can rent a school bus for pretty cheap…it would also depend on whether you are providing alcohol or not…if not, I would forget the bus, but if so, you actually want people to be able to drink without worrying about driving so I’d def do the bus.
Post # 14
i think that is a fine amount of time to drive. i think we forget how far we would go or do for other people’s weddings that when it comes to planning our own we feel we have to make it super easy for people. AND it saves you a lot of money, i think its a good idea. Make sure you are happy with the place and others will follow.
Post # 15
I don’t think it’s THAT far and if it is going to save you that much money when your budget is tight then go for it. Just know some people will probably skip the ceremony and find hotel options for people both close to the ceremony AND the reception site.
Post # 16
That isn’t bad at all. I had my ceremony and reception at the same venue, but that venue was 1.5 hours away from where the majority of my guests and I lived. A few guests lived slightly closer, but everyone else — inlcuding my now Darling Husband — had to drive (or fly) three or more hours from another state to be there.