Post # 1
We want to have our reception at a restaurant that is two stories. We want to have dinner upstairs then move downstairs to the bar to dance (dj) and have cake, etc. Some of the members of my fiancés family don’t drink including his mother and grandmother and his cousins and aunts have children so I don’t know if they would be drinking a lot. My family on the other hand are partiers and love to drink. My sister thinks if we have this kind of reception my family would be downstairs and my fiancés would be upstairs. I really love the idea of having dancing and stuff downstairs, I feel as it would allow a relaxed atmosphere and people would be more comfortable to dance and let loose, rather than a super formal reception. I do see my sister’s point but I am torn. If we do not have the reception like this we will have to go with the barn reception idea where there would be no bar just beer and wine at an outdoor venue. Help I don’t know how to please both family’s!
Post # 3
I have to agree with your sister. And I have first hand experience. My cousin’s wedding was this way and the wedding guests were split into 2 groups, upstairs and downstairs.
The only way I think it could work is if there are tables or something so that you could force everyone downstairs. But while alot of people like to watch the dancing and chat, they don’t like to leave their seat.
Post # 4
My FI’s family is the same way. We don’t have the option of two floors, so we’re guessing many of them will leave early. Your way is better because your FI’s family will have a more calm place to hang out while not having to leave right after dinner!
Go with it.
Post # 5
can you have the venue close the upstairs portion after dinner?
Post # 6
do what YOU want to do. You have one shot at this and it should be all you have ever wanted!
Post # 7
I understand why you’re torn. My reception will be split between two floors as well because of restricted space (ACK!). We are doing our cake cutting after dinner upstairs so it will draw people upstairs. I think we are going to be putting the bar upstairs as well so that will keep people upstairs. We will be providing a certain amount of tables and chairs, as well as high top tables upstairs so there are still places to sit and chat, eat dessert etc.