Reception Venue Regret! Need advice!

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
949 posts
Busy bee

This is your wedding, not his families. People will always have something to complain about. Just celebrate your special day and ignore the complainers. 

Post # 3
4719 posts
Honey bee

Would these individuals have to rent a car no matter what?

What are the logistics between airport, hotels they would likely stay at, ceremony site, and reception site?

Have you already sent save the dates (thus making cutting your guest list difficult if not impossible)?

Depending on those factors, I’d probably factor a shuttle from ceremony to reception into your budget and potentially shuttles back to the hotels.  It is one thing if it is one or two out of town folks, but it sounds like his entire side is from out of state.

Post # 4
959 posts
Busy bee

Personally I don’t think I’d forfeit 1k based soley on passive-aggressive remarks, especially since they had previously approved the commute. Frankly they’re being quite petty if they’re whining about a 30 min drive. They’ll get over it. 

Indoor receptions are always preferrable, in my opinion. It’ll be much cheaper to keep the venue at this point, and that place sounds lovely so it’s not as though you’d be settling. Look at it this way, is pleasing your family—over something rather obsolete—worth 1k+ to you? 

Post # 7
280 posts
Helper bee

It’s really up to what you want and your vision for the day! I personally would probably stick with the original venue – 30 minutes isn’t an awful commute and like PPs have said, you can always look into shuttle services. 

Out of curiosity, what is the original venue? I’m also in the Midwest and that sounds EXACTLY like my reception venue down to pricing and everything! 

Post # 8
47278 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think the way to proceed is to go over your guest list and decide who you really want with you on your wedding day. If you want to invite everyone on the larger guest list, you need to keep your venue. If there are people you included when you were still in the first wave of excitement of wedding planning, who you would be comfortable cutting, consider that option.

If you are going to provide a shuttle, the 30 minute drive is irrelevant, other than the impact on your finances. It’s going to take 3-4 buses to transfer 150 people, or one bus doing a loop which is going to take a long time- more than one hour for each 50 people. If you only have one bus, some people will be delivered to the reception venue a full 2 hours before the last guests arrive.

Post # 9
1111 posts
Bumble bee

buenavrm :  no, a shuttle service would solve all of your problems. 

Post # 10
2117 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

If you’re going to have to cut your guest list, and lose 1k, you definitely should not change your reception venue.

Post # 11
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

buenavrm :  Yeah, if I where you I would look into a shuttle.  You should be able to find something for 1000 or under if you shop around.  

I was able to get a 44 person school bus for 700 dollas, enough to cover the first and lat 4 hours of my wedding.  

Post # 12
74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2020

buenavrm :  I went to a wedding that had about a 45 min commute between the ceremony and receptions. it really wasn’t that bad at all and I don’t remember anyone complaining! We all had a great time. That said, with so many out of town guests it might be nice to provide a shuttle service, which I bet you can do with the 1,000 you save by keeping your original reception venue:) 

Post # 13
7165 posts
Busy Beekeeper

+1 for the shuttle. We booked a shuttle to bring people from the hotel to our venue and then home (ceremony+reception same site) and it was great! Being a Destination Wedding not everyone had cars, and we had a great open bar that we wanted people to enjoy. We had 2 people that still drove due to elderly family members, but other than that the shuttle was a hit. 

I wouldn’t lose the $1k AND cut your guest list AND pay more per head. Plus, a 5m drive is still going require a car. 

Post # 14
4641 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

buenavrm :  it’s 30 minutes. I was super chuffed to find somewhere suitable that’s 30 minutes away. Like “go us”. Shuttle is a good idea. We’re doing one but mainly because there is little parking at our ceremony site and our reception venue is a hotel where people might stay the night before.

Post # 15
1719 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

buenavrm :  Nope, I wouldn’t change it. They should have been straight forward when you initially asked. If they make more progressive comments just ignore it. It’s your wedding – not theirs. And losing $1000 Is nothing to snuff about.

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