Reception Venue Regret! Need advice!

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 16
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607 posts
Busy bee

buenavrm :  I would not change what you have booked.  It sounds like you are quite happy with the decisions that you have made.  And people being passive aggressive is annoying.

If you wanted to make things easier on the guests, you could look at transportation from whatever hotel you are booking for out of town guests, your ceremony venue, and then your reception venue.  I am using school buses to provide transportation for guests coming into my wedding by train and from our hotel block and it is very affordable…less than $400 per bus.  Which quite frankly is roughly what you would be losing in a deposit to book a more expensive place.

Post # 18
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282 posts
Helper bee

buenavrm :  I’m in STL as well! But we’re at a different golf course in Forest Park. Although we did look into Tapawingo, they didn’t have our preferred date open. Is your ceremony by chance at the Jewel Box?! That’s where ours is! What a small world 😝

Post # 20
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282 posts
Helper bee

buenavrm :  When you said a “greenhouse” type building in your OP, bells started going off in my head haha. Our reception is at the Norman K. Probstein Golf Course (the one closer to the Muny). Tapawingo is super nice, I’m sure all your guests will love it – plus that drive is mostly highway, so I’m sure it’ll be an easy commute for guests.

Post # 21
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Newbee

I wouldn’t change it. My husband and I are both from different midwest states and chose to have our wedding where we live now in North Carolina, so every single wedding guest had to travel down here. I’d say about half of our guests rented cars but the other half took ubers/lyfts everywhere. And since your wedding is mostly family, as ours was, carpooling or ridesharing should be not a huge issue.

Post # 22
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804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Farm

buenavrm :  Stick to your original plans. You will not be able to make everyone happy. It’s only a 30 minute commute. It’s not like its an hour or more commute from the two venues. I think that it is fine.  I wouldn’t want to loose 1k for trying to satisfy other people. Your plan sounds okay. Stick to it.

Post # 23
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105 posts
Blushing bee

I switched venues and don’t regret it, but I just wasn’t feeling the first venue we booked. If you love your venue then you should stick with it. I would stick with it simply because its cheaper, and 1k is a nice chunk of change. 

Post # 24
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3865 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

If their issue is that they want to drink at the reception then it doesn’t matter where it is, they still have to get home/back to the hotel afterwards…? And a 30 minute drive is not that bad. If you switch it sounds like you’re going to be stressing with the guest list (also a lot of the time if you actually fill a venue to it’s max capacity it’s going to be pretty crowded). An outdoor venue also inherently brings some issues – what if the weather is bad/there are bugs/etc? Indoor is less stressful I think. 

Post # 25
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704 posts
Busy bee

$1,000 it’s a very minimal deposit – take that out of the equation and do what you invision. If you think you will be changing your mind again, be sure to get a wedding insurance policy to protect your deposits. 

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