Post # 1
When a reception comes right after a ceremony, even though many still write out a timeline, there still is an obvious flow to them. I am just wondering how it should play out when you have one following a small ceremony or Destination Wedding.
Obviously people did not come in, sit down and just start eating. What other events took place? What kind of timeline did you work out?
Post # 2
We had a second wedding party a couple months after our “real” wedding in DH’s home country, since most of his family couldn’t make it to the big wedding in the U.S. It started with a cocktail hour, so guests just tapered in and went outside to grab a drink and enjoy some apps. Then after 90 min or so we moved into the room where dinner was and everyone took their seats. DH’s parents gave a brief toast and then there was a short sllideshow with pics from our U.S. wedding, and a video clip his parents put together with congrats messages from other family members who couldn’t be there. Afterwards, there was a band and dancing. The reception timeline was basically the same as our first wedding – only difference was there was no ceremony before.
Post # 3
We just went to a reception for a couple who had a family only Destination Wedding. It was basically the same as any reception except bride & groom were there the whole time (including cocktail hour) since not taking photos.
Cocktail hour in w champagne welcome, open bar, & passed apps. Slideshow of Destination Wedding pics played in one corner.
Bride’s father made a welcome toast/ short speech & indicated the buffet was open for dinner
Dinner (open seating, which I usually detest but worked well since some guests did treat the night as more of a “come & go” event…we weren’t all scrambling for seats)
Dancing & dessert – they just had a dessert table (no cake cutting since they did that at the DW) and a great band for dancing
No formal exit, it was more like a charity gala where the event just naturally winds down by 10:30-11ish.
Post # 4
Although we didn’t go right from ceremony to reecption (we had a cocktail hour), everyone was ushed into the reception space and had an opportunity to sign the guestbook if they hadn’t before, find their seats and get a drink from the bar before the formalities started. Within about 15 minutes of everyone getting into the space, my dad opened up the evening with a welcome to everyone and his speech (he brought down the house!).
Once his speech was done, we moved into food courses and did speeches in between courses (best man (while appetizer was being served), maid of honor (between app and pasta course), bridesmaid/groomsman (between pasta and main), us (after main, before dessert), mother of the groom (after dessert) before dances). We also did two games, one was pass the toonie (between my dad and the best man) and the other was the shoe game (after the main course, before desert), both were a hit.
We were all done with the formalities by about 10PM or earlier and then got the dancing started. Budget 10 minutes for each speech 10 minutes for each game. I liked slipping them inbetween courses because it held people’s attention and the DJ was able to get people to quiet down for speeches/etc.
Post # 5
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I am also wondering if a day of planner might be necessary. We won’t have a DJ (it’ll be more like a family dinner) and I feel that my Fiance nor myself should be the ones to say things like “ok so and so has a speech”, “uncle whoever will now say the blessing so we can eat” etc. How was this handled? Or what do you recommend?
Post # 6
I don’t really think you need someone to announce that so & so is giving a toast or a blessing. When it’s time, the person who’s giving the toast/blessing can simply walk up to the front of the room and do their thing. That’s how our wedding party went anyway…we did have a band but they didn’t really do any announcements or anything.
If you’re not doing a ceremony or havingn a band/dj or a ton of other vendors, I think you probably don’t need a planner.
Post # 7
We do not have a coordinator. Lucky, all of the women in my family are organized and I can trust them to help a lot with the timeline.
Our Timeline Is somehting Like:
5:00- Pre Cermony Music Starts
5:30- Ceremony Begins
6:00- Ceremony Ends (Approx)
6:00- Cocktail Hour (Salads Pre-Set, Doors to Hall Open for Guests)
8:00- First Dance/Father Daughter/Mother Daughter
8:15- General Dancing Starts (Immediately after Dances)
10:00- Send Off
10:30- Last Call/Last Song
11:00-11:30- Clean Up
Of Course, this all works out beautifully in my head, but we will see how it works out in real life… 10 More Days! lol
Post # 8
I see. I clearly am going to have to give this more thought, or maybe that is the problem, maybe I am over thinking it.