(Closed) Receptions can get a little crazy…but security needed?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I have never heard of hiring a security officer for a wedding. Especially since your wedding is small. I would imagine it would be the talk of the party and people may even become offended that you thought one would be needed to keep everyone behaved. I wouldn’t want people to remember me having a security guard at my wedding. Is there a trusted friend who can be relied on to make a phone or something if needed?

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Security for a wedding of 65 people? I cannot imagine! Do they have a history of dramatic, loud, literal fighting? Or is it relatively “under the radar” drama?

Is there a groomsman or close family member/friend who is reasonable that you could ask to ask people to keep it in check/walk them outside to cool off if something starts?

I seriously can’t imagine having security for a wedding of that size. I agree with you that it really feels out of place. Is it possible your planner has a buddy that does security or something that is pushing her to suggest this? Did she have a bad scene in the past?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Security was actually required at most of the venues we looked at around here if alcohol was going to be served. There were only 2 and I didn’t even notice them the entire night. Oh and they even escorted my mom to and from her car to load the gifts in and make sure she left safe since it was past midnight and she was alone.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My reception ended in a full blow fist fight and I had the same number of guests as you.  A bunch of my guests were covered in blood trying to tear them apart so for me I would say if you think someone is going to start something I would have somone there that can handle it before it happens…

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Our venue comes with 2 security guards. We don’t have a choice.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Security isn’t always a bad thing to have.  Our venue comes with one, but it is a gorgeous historic church in a less then wonderful neighborhood.  They have issues with homeless trying to get into the church to sleep, crashing events there etc.  If you feel like someone will be offended by security being there blame it on the venue lol. 

That being said, it can be nice to have an outside “authority figure” to keep things under control.  Particularly if you have a group that likes to drink and party, some people feel like weddings are the best place to get stupid drunk and cause trouble. You know your guests best, do you think there will be people who have had too much to drink, may say something inappropriate, do something inapproriate etc?  If so I would go with the securtiy guard. 

 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@MrsPom:  Surprised I must know this story! I went back and tried to look for a recap but oh my gosh!!!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@misspeanut:  The venues around here that we looked are the same way.  I didn’t see a problem with it. The venue would rather be overly cautious then sorry later.

As for OP, does your Fiance think it might be needed or good to have just in case? He would know his family and their tendencies best

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

@peachykd:  The security guard could be plain clothes, and hanging out somewhere reading a book or whatever. If something happens, then they can spring to action.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@peachykd:  If Fiance thinks it’s a good idea for his family, I’d say go for it. Talk with your planner and tell her that you don’t want the security to be obvious. And don’t think of it as being tacky, think of it as being prepared for the worse while hoping it won’t be needed. Kinda like a rain plan for outdoor weddings.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you’re in a more remote location and you think there might be trouble with the guests, then you really have no choice but to hire security.  And that probably goes even if your location isn’t remote.  Most professional security teams are very discreet. I wouldn’t want them in plain clothes and reading a book— they are really there to stop trouble before it starts— but two or three guys dressed in suits that hang on the edges of the crowd and keep an eye on things will not give people the wrong impression. 

The best kind of security plan will pre-empt a problem. You WANT people to know that these guys are hired to keep things safe and civil, because people are a lot less likely to act up if they know there is someone who is there specifically to keep order.  They don’t have to wear shirts that say SECURITY on the back; that’s more appropriate for a rock concert. But a suit, and those little earpeice radio cords you see on the nightclub security guys, should be enough to get the point across without looking like you expect a mosh pit to form.

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