Post # 1
Are Friday weddings really the trouble people (guests) are making them out to be? I have heard many say they like attending Friday weddings because it doesn’t take up their whole weekend. I’ve heard others say it’s tough to get the time off of work… but really, when you send the save the date out 4-5 months in advance, shouldn’t that be enough notice if they need to get an hour or two off on a Friday?
What are your opinions?
Post # 3
I’ve only been to one Friday wedding and it was a giant inconvenience. I did get out of work early but it took me 2 hrs to get to the town the wedding was in, then I had to change and I still missed the ceremony. Basically the only way to guarantee you won’t be late because of traffic is to take the entire day off which I don’t want to do for a local wedding. All that said… I get why some people decide to have Friday weddings and if you’re my friend I will gladly attend and never say a word to you about how much your choice annoys me. I may miss your ceremony though.
Post # 4
I’m a firm believer in the people that need to be there will be there regardless of day or time.
Poll you essential people though, see how that would work for them. Usually, it’s not too bad to get off of work a little earlier or to take the day if you have enough notice.
Post # 5
I was in a Friday wedding and I took the day off, but many people missed the ceremony due to rush hour traffic. It’s hard to time it perfectly since traffic is so unpredictable. Honestly though, I think there are pros and cons to any wedding date. Do what works for you!
Post # 6
I think Friday weddings are an inconvenience for people who are not close to you. I would never expect people to get out of work early to come to my wedding. I think if the wedding started later than it would be ok, but whenever I have went to a Friday wedding it started around 3 or so, most people are at work still.
Post # 7
@KatieJean: It is not an incovenience. In my years on this earth, I have found out people do what they want to do. People take off from work for all kinds of reasons- lazy, shopping days, just don’t wanna go, got up late, etc… if people really wanna come, they will come. Some people will complain about anything. Also, people know how traffic is all the time if the wedding is in their area. Have it the day and time you want, and the people that want to share your lovely day with you will.
Post # 8
That’s what I keep telling my folks – if the people think it is important enough to be there, they will be able to find a way to make it to the ceremony and/or reception on a Friday. We always have! It’s been a little hassle sometimes… but we’ve always gone!
Post # 9
I beg to differ. I believe it is an inconvenience. But people have to take time off of work for unavoidable reasons, like doctor’s appointments, when their kids get sick, etc, so just because you choose to schedule your wedding on a friday, doesn’t mean that a person will be able to get off early. Not all people’s jobs are that flexible. One of my best friends in the world got married on a friday before christmas. I live 4 hours away. There is no way I could’ve been there without taking a half day. Taking a day off a week before Christmas isn’t easy in any field, never mind one with strict deadlines. So, I would have to disagree with the “people who want to be there will be there” theory as well. Sometimes people just can’t, even if they’d like to. Just because you have advance notice doesn’t mean that its any easier. Do what is best for you and your fiance but I think you have to be understanding of your guests’ time as well.
Post # 10
I think the people that are the closest to you will be there, but it will still be an inconvenience. I am sorry, I fully understand the benefits to a Friday and believe you should be able to have the wedding you want, but I think this is the same as a destination wedding that some people just won’t be able to make it. I think you need to decide what is more important, having the wedding on a Friday, for whatever reason, or making sure people can be there.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2011 - St. Joseph's Parish, Seattle Tennis Club
We had our wedding on a Friday due to availability issues (our venue was only available on Fridays in August, and due to Mass schedulings, the ceremony timing worked better on Fridays), and we actually had many people comment that they really enjoyed having the wedding on a Friday, as it gave them the entire weekend to explore Seattle, spend more time with us, etc. I understand that some people will have difficulties getting time off, but with so much advance notice if you’re getting Save-The-Date Cards out, there isn’t much else you can do.
Just do what works best for you, your Fiance, and your immediate family/ bridal party.
Post # 12
The last wedding I went to was on Friday, and it was a huge inconvenience, especially as it was out-of-state for us. However, we never considered not going just because it was on Friday. Although we talked about how it was an added inconvenience, no one ever said “They should have done it on a Saturday” or “They are not being considerate to their guests” or anything along those lines. People understand that venues may be more available or less expensive on Friday.
Post # 13
I agree, people that need to be there will be there regardless of the day.
I personally like weekend weddings because I don’t have to take off a day of work…(I don’t get paid days off beacuse I freelance)
Either way, a wedding is a wedding and if I’m invited most likely its because its someone who is special to me and I wouldn’t not go just because it was on a Friday!!
Post # 14
If you are sending out save the dates, your guests shouldn’t have a hard time getting off a few hours early on a friday. We are getting married on a friday because the date is special to us, and we did have some guests complain, but its OUR wedding and will be OUR anniversary date for the rest of our lives. Besides, I always have to work saturdays, so I have to take time off work to attend saturday weddings.
Do what you and your future husband want! Not what is more convenient for other people.
Post # 15
Before setting an odd day I would check with my essential guests, the ones I cannot imagine not being there. For me, that isn’t really a lot of people. My parents, grandparents, my brother & my 3 best friends.
Then do what you want!
Post # 16
We originally intended to do a friday wedding till I realized none of my co-workers would be able to make it and that it would require almost everyone of our guests taking the day off. The ceremony park and the venue dont charge extra for saturdays so it was not so bad.