Post # 1
My fiance really doesn’t like to dance. In fact, he hates being the center of attention, so the fact that we’re having a wedding at all is a big compromise on his part. So I’m brainstorming ways to provide other entertainment for our guests without blowing our $800-1000 entertainment budget that might take the pressure off of him. I would like to provide some kind of music so that people can dance if they want to and I don’t think I want to go the iPod route because I’m terrible at judging what people want to hear and of course I don’t want to man the thing the entire night! So maybe we hire a DJ anyway? I’d be open to bands of most any kind, but just doubt we could find one at that price.
In terms of non-music entertainment I was thinking we could do a DIY photobooth and set up Kuub and bocce outside and light the playing area with candle lanterns on shepherd’s hooks. Our venue also has this sweet little barn that serves as the cocktail area so I was thinking we could borrow some of my fiance’s family’s outdoor furniture and set it up there to make it a lounge area. And then we can also set up a portable fire pit (is that what it’s called) outside the reception hall and have hay bales around it for people to sit on and marshmallows on a stick for people to roast. At first I was disappointed that he objected so much to dancing being the focus, but now I’m really liking the idea of giving people things to do other than sit at the dinner table or dance. And who am I kidding, I’m not much of a dancer either!
Anyone have any other ideas or tried such a thing?
Post # 4
I think all your ideas are good.
Is it day or night? That will make a big difference.
I do think you need music, but it doesnt have to be dancing music. Music helps people relax, have fun and get in the mood to celebrate.
Post # 5
I am doing an iPod reception, but to get ideas my RSVP had this on it: I promise to dance if you play this song: ______________
I have gotten so many different selections–it is going to be awesome! My Fiance HATES dancing, and we BOTH hate being the center of attention, so we are hoping this helps.
You could also put board games (sorry, jenga, scattegories, etc.) as centerpieces for people to play!
Post # 6
I haven’t really asked about it yet, but I am planning on setting up a bunch of cocktail tables near the bar, so that if people don’t feel like dancing, they can hang out and mingle in the bar area. Sitting at the dinner tables is hard because you’re far away from everyone and it’s usually hard to hear. I figure these tables will make it easier for people to talk to more than just the one or two people next to them, if they don’t want to dance.
Post # 7
I like all these ideas. Especially the board games. I actually hate to dance, and Fiance can’t dance so I haven’t decided if we’re going to spend $600 on a DJ. Whenever I watch Four Weddings, I always see them judging people so harshly as their wedding being “boring” if ppl aren’t cutting a rug on the dance floor
Post # 8
You could also have differnet games setup at each table for people to play…jenga and what not…
Post # 9
I did the game route at my reception. During cocktail hour, there was a “Minute to win it” station, where people could participate if they chose to, but it wasn’t necessary. So many people had rave reviews about it– we offered little prizes as an incentive to play. Nothing huge, but enough to get them excited to play.
During the reception, we had dinner-time trivia— questions were asked throughout the dinner, which alleviated a lot of awkward dinner-time conversation among people who didn’t really know anyone at the table besides their date.
After dinner, we had short 20 minute bursts of dancing, but played bridal-party family feud ( A HUGE hit!) followed by more dancing, cake cutting / toast, and ending the night (after a little more dancing) with the Newly Wed game. It wasn’t ALL dancing, but honestly, during your own wedding, you WANT to burn off some energy, and it won’t even matter if you’re the center of attention. I guarantee you will have far too much fun to even notice.
Post # 10
@StuporDuck:Great ideas! Do you have more details about you did each one of these?
Post # 12
@lefeymw:It will be a night time reception. It’s kind of up to us to decide what the timeframe is though. Our venue is super flexible that way and will be the same place for both ceremony and reception.
Post # 13
@vermontia: I do! It might help if you asked me specific questions, and I can be more succinct in helping you by answering exactly what you want to hear about. Send me a PM.
Post # 14
We’re having a cocktail-style reception; we’re doing iPod music (just playing songs from mix CDs we’ve given each other, with a few non-love-songs thrown in), and we’ll be having a first dance/father-daughter dance/etc., but the focus won’t be on the dancing. People mingle! They’ll talk! I think that the fact that we’ve having a ‘shorter’ reception helps, too. : )
Post # 15
My fiance and I have the same feeling about the dancing.
We decided to have an afternoon wedding.
We are going to have a frank sinatra singer for entertainment.
Of course we are still having a sit down fare as well as open bar, just not a dj and dancing.