(Closed) Recipes and Dessert instead of gift?

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m a big fan of doing things outside of the box.  If my family and friends actually baked, I’d so do this.  However, there’s only so many variations of appeltaart recipes here in Holland and with my luck, that’s what they’d all give me since I think it’s the national dessert or something. LOL

Post # 18
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i think it’s a really nice idea! one of my friends gave me one of her family cookies recipes (that we’ve eaten since we were in kindergarten so she knows i love it!) as part of my shower present, along with baking items like cookie sheets and mixing bowls. of course i appreciate everything that she gave me, but while the baking tools will wear out eventually, i’ll be making those cookies forever!

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Personally I love the idea! Would love to do something similar (we are on the same page as you guys when it comes to gifts). Shame we most likely will just have dinner with our bridal party before the ceremony (which is most likely gonne be at 6:30pm) which is being followed by a toast and party.. so I wouldn’t know how to incoorporate this.

Maybe I could ask my Sis (who is my MOH) to include a note with the invites from her asking for our guests most favorite recipes, which could be made into a recipe-giftbook of sorts.. might even be able to combine it with the guest book hmmm /ponders Thanks for the idea!!

And I think given the description of your wedding and family/friends attending, it would be perfectly fine to do something like this! Go for it girl!

Post # 20
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Newbee

My most cherished gift was a cook book filled with recipes from all of my friends and family. My sis had them bring a card with their favorites. I think you have a great idea, but don’t limit it to just desserts. Ask them to bring a recipe that means somethign and to record the story.

If people want to give you physical gift, they will either way. You may want to register anyway for just basic light housekeeping things. Have your family pass the word that you will be moving and are saving for something…they may in turn give you $$ or something small.

Post # 21
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I love this idea! I wanted to something similar at our wedding but Fiance and my family vetoed the idea. Party poopers 😛

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

You don’t need to mention the gift issue at all. People who want to bring a gift (which is sometimes cash, which everyone can use, you could always donate it to a charity after the wedding) are going to. Some of my family gave cards with checks plus a tangible gift not from our registry. My aunt always gives people a vase, it’s her thing and she likes the idea of it being a reminder of her for her children/neices/nephews.

The dessert and recipe thing is a separate thing.  What a nice idea! I’d be sure to specify, like you said, that it’s an invite to those who like to bake (and who can transport food to your wedding reception). You might consider letting people post their recipes to your website if you have one. Then everyone could share them if they’d like.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2004

Just a thought with people bringing desserts…. If I were doing something like that, I’d probably purchase a very nice plate and/or serving set to leave with you. There’s a chance that you might wind up with a LOT of platters/stands/etc.

I think it’s a super-sweet idea, though!

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

i think thats an excellent idea! you could even create a super cute recipe card box with cards and include them in the invitation, so they could have it all written out and just put it in the box when they get there.

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

That’s a lovely idea! Often when people say don’t send gifts you feel really awkward, but this is a lovely, thoughtful alternative. And you’ll be able to remember all your guests whenever you make the dish they gave you. So sweet! Much nicer than asking for money, as well, which I always find difficult, personally. 

We’re doing a similar thing, but in the other direction – our table names are my favourite cakes and cookies (I’m well known for my baking) and the favours will be the recipe to match the table name. I had originally planned on making cookies as favours, but thought I’d be really hurt if people leave them behind when I’d worked so hard, so this way they can take the cards if they want, and if not, it’s no skin off my nose. Keen people can even swap/collect the recipes they want, since I’ll be giving out a few trade secrets!

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think it’s a great idea!

A friend of mine is having a casual, family-reunion style reception. In a note card placed inside the invitation (with the rsvp card) it said that food and beer would be provided BUT if you would like you can bring a bottle of wine, bottle of liquor or six pack of beer in lieu of a gift. These people like to party, so it makes good sense, and I opted to bring a bottle of wine.

I may also get them a gift, though. Lol.

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