Post # 1
My new husband and I recently got married, and invited our 2 good friends who are engaged. Their wedding is coming up in September, and we’re really looking forward to it. However, I’m not sure what to do about the check amount. They gave us $150, which we really appreciated. However, normally we would give between $200-250 for a friend’s wedding. Is it rude to give them more $ than they gave us? Will they feel bad that they gave less? Thoughts?
Post # 3
Just give them the same, or buy them a gift for just slightly over $150.
Post # 4
No, I think you should give whatever you normally give.
Post # 5
@tigers213: You should give what you can afford and what you feel comfortable with. You do not have to try to match. This is not being polite.
Perhaps their financial situation, social situation is not the same as yours. If one guest gives the other $10,000 the other doesn’t have to reciprocate.
Post # 6
I would give them the same amount. I personally give as much as I would want to receive or can afford to give.
Post # 7
I had a friend attend my wedding last year and she didn’t give us anything (but we were so happy for her to travel to our wedding!!!). We’re going to give her $250 because we love her so much. We are in more stable places than they are, and that’s what I want to give them. Friendship isn’t tit for tat.
Post # 8
Thank you so much girls. This was super helpful. I think we’ll just give what we normally give, and not worry about the “tit for tat.”
(btw, I read/lurked this forum a lot while planning my wedding, and it was an incredible asset, so thanks to the frequent posters!!)