(Closed) Reciprocal proposal?

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

You sound like me. I know the first thing I’m going to say when he proposes is “Are you doing this because you want to or because you know I want to?” 

I think proposing back to him is a great idea! Keep us posted on your proposal and his! 

Post # 4
2697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you feel like you need do it to double check his feelings for you, you’re never going to be sure.

I love the gesture and contemplated it myself, but more out of “hey, he deserves a romantic surprise too!” rather than a “if you’re having second thoughts, here is your chance…” kind of deal. If he proposes, he loves you, he wants to marry you. Accept it! And surprise him for fun!

Post # 6
6248 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Sounds like a cute idea. But are you sure you need to ask him why he’s proposing?

Post # 7
2697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012


I understand your reasoning on both counts.

What I’m saying is that if you’re doubting his feelings for you even after he has proposed to you, proposing back to him will not make you stop doubting it, no matter what his answer is.

Deciding to propose is a huge decision for someone and your SO will have thought about it in depth already. If you think he’s not comfortable with marriage or you are wondering if you’re pressuring him into something that he doesn’t want, then you should discuss this with him.The outcome of that discussion would make you more certain than proposing back to him would.

I’m not saying don’t make the gesture. I’m saying I don’t think that the outcome will ever make you certain of his feelings for you if you can’t trust that he loves you and wants to marry you when he asks.

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