- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Fiance and I were going through our guestlist the other day and he said “Don’t forget to put X on the guestlist, he invited us to his wedding last year.” Okay. Normally I’d be cool with that, but X invited us to his wedding 4 hours away from where we live (so long drive, hotel room, food for the weekend, wedding present…it was kinda costly for us) then, after the ceremony, the MC announced that only some people were invited to the reception – guests with a blue invite were invited, guests with a red invite, well, thanks for coming!!I wouldn’t have minded so much if we had known beforehand, but this was the first we heard of it. Also, my fiance barely speaks to X – they were friends in high school, but barely speak unless it’s something major (e.g. X’s wedding, our engagement, X had a baby, etc.). Other than that, no contact since they left high school.
I immediately replied to fiance’s guestlist suggestion with “X invited us to his wedding, not the reception, so…?” Fiance says X feels really bad about the fact that we weren’t invited to the reception, but I still feel annoyed at the idea that we have to invite them when, I feel, we were treated pretty discourteously at their wedding.
Does anyone else have any similar experiences? I mean, we’ll probably still invite them (chances are they won’t come because they’re not that close, and travelling all that way with a little kid could be difficult), but I just feel frustrated that we have to reciprocate the wedding invite when, technically, we were barely invited to their wedding. It feels more like we were invited to bring them a gift and sit in a church for an hour or so (and pay for the travel too!).