So this reply ended up longer than planned.
You can get kitten milk from most pet supply places – usually it’s a powder that you can reconstitute. It’s safe for cats. In general, they’re lactose intolerant, but they do like the taste, so kitten milk can be a nice treat.
I know there is a huge push for grain free, gluten free, no-by-product etc. food for cats, but the single most important thing you can do to choose your cat food is see how your kitten reacts. Just like people, cats can have reactions to food that is perfectly fine for other cats. (My Andy reacts poorly to poultry, very, very poorly. I remember a time in my life when the phrase “projectile diarrhea” wasn’t in my vocabulary. Alas.) And they do have a sense of taste! Whatever brand you choose, get something for the correct life cycle. Kittens have different nutritional needs than adults. But if you give little guy something and he doesn’t want it or anything strange comes out of his butt, don’t fight it. Accept that for some animals, the top shelf gluten free all lamb and carrots or whatever food is bad. While for others it might be great.
I used to have a roommate who thought I was a monster because I gave my cats Purina. My dearly departed Mr Kitty would not eat any other brand. He refused. So that’s what I gave him. She gave her cat Solid Gold. Then she got a kitten, and insisted that instead of kitten food, the kitten would also eat Solid Gold. Oh, she believed that it was the best food for any cat of any age. So for a year, this poor baby had constant diarrhea. Except for the week where roommate was out of town and her boyfriend gave the kitten some kitten chow. Kitten was fine while eating kitten food. As an adult, she was fine with Solid Gold. Just – the poor baby, suffering for his mom’s ideology.
My vet strongly advises against an all wet diet. Dry food is good for their teeth. Would they eat kibble in the wild? No. They also don’t often live beyond seven in the wild, so they don’t have to worry about tooth decay. Wet food is good for hydration, and if you choose to give them any additives like cat-safe salmon oil–if you’re in a dry climate or have a very dry house, the oil is good for their skin–or dental additives, it’s a lot easier to mix them into some wet food. You could also be like FH and heat the food to just the temperature that each individual cat prefers. But it’s not necessary. ^_^ (The man loves his cats. And my cats. The man loves cats.)
Despite them being lactose intolerant, if your cat has occasional indigestion or stomach upset, you can give them Greek yogurt IF it’s made with goat milk only. Yogurt has the same healthy, helpful probiotic effect for cats as it does people. It’s cheaper than keeping the probiotic pouches on hand, at least it is if you also like the yogurt so you can eat what the cat doesn’t need. Pumpkin is also good for the upset stomach. Not pumpkin pie filling – nothing flavored. Just the straight pumpkin you can get in the can. If it has any ingredient other than pumpkin, no. Straight pumpkin in small quantities can help with minor stomach upsets. Catnip is also good for reducing nausea and stimulating appetite.
As far as people food goes, be wary of certain ingredients. Let nothing with onion touch your cat.
All in all, the best nutrition in the world won’t help if your cat doesn’t like it. See if your vet advises something after giving the kitten a checkup, read the labels in the store, try to find something appropriate for age, and then just wait and see. See if he eats it!
I’m a Tidy Cat girl as far as litter goes. I’ve tried the dustfree ones like Yesterday’s News at my vet’s recommendation. Maybe I have exceptionally silly cats, but one kept trying to eat it and the others defiantly did their business beside the box or else would just cry and cry and when I opened the front door to leave for work, they’d dash outside to poop in the lawn. Litter, like food, comes in many varieties, but you can’t tell the cat what to like and can’t make them like what’s best for them.
I’m not sure if at 3 months you can still toilet train them in the regular human toilet. 🙂