(Closed) Recovered ex anorexic… can i get pregnant?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

While the illness may have done some damage on your overall health, it’s doubtfull that it will affect your ability to get pregnant NOW. If you are at a healthy weight now, and are paying attention to your diet and health to keep from dropping to an unhealthy weight, then you will most likely be just fine. 

Not having periods can be detremential to your body, but it also means you weren’t losing eggs during that time. If you are back at a healthy weight, you will probably continue to have normal periods after going off the pill, and will probably conceive just fine. 

If you want to have kids right after marriage, I strongly recommend going off the pill right now and sticking with condoms until you’re ready to conceive. This will give your body time to regulate and regain a normal cycle before you conceive.

Of course, you need to consult your doctor before trying to conceive, just to be sure your body is capable of handling a pregnancy. And I know you don’t want to hear this, but even if you can’t conceive – there’s always adoption. Thousands of children in need of mommies would be thrilled to be welcomed into your life. You never have to face the thought of being childless.

And you should be honest with your partner – he is your support system, and it will be easier on both of you if you go through this TOGETHER.

Sending plenty of baby dust your way!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I fell pregnant during recovery. Unfortunately we needed to terminate the pregnancy but ana did not affect my fertility. Obesity is worse on your chances than anorexia.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Oh and I agree 100% with being honest with your partner, my Fiance has been my best defence against full blown relapse. He is amazing, and having someone else say “No your notbeing healthy, no its not ok for you to eat so little” and pretty much call me out has really made me accountable to myself.

I think it will do you a world of good to tell him, you are a team and need to face everything together.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@azafata: Congrats on getting back to healthy! Once you return to eating adequately, your fertility should return over time. And no sense in beating yourself up over your past. Find a way to move forward eating more healthfully and focusing on your self-worth as a total human being and not just a weight. For most women (and men), eating disorders are a lifelong struggle. So the best advice to give you and others is to continue treatment if at all possible with a therapist and perhaps medication if needed. While having your husband for support is also very important, it might be difficult for him to fully understand the illness at times. Something like this requires professional help. Good luck!

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

You should ask a doctor. They would be able to help you out.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have also strugged with ana as well as mia. I often wonder the same thing. However, if you say that you’re eating better now and have gained weight then I would say you should be ok. I couldn’t tell or not from your post but did you say that you’re on the pill and not getting your period? I’m on the pill in order to have my period, have been for at least 5 years or so. Just remember if you have a period, you can get pregnant. If you do get pregnant just make sure to be healthy during the pregnancy.

Also, agreed with pp that you need to be honest with your fiance about it.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I lost my period due to anorexia around 16 and I was also but on contraceptives.

I have sinced gained ( thanks to being in love lol) and have tried not being on the pill and I did get a genuine real period.

Stay positive and hope for the best, even women who don’t have disordered eating and have normal non pill periods sometimes don’t get pregnant. You really can’t tell!

Just enjoy yourself!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I went through a similar experience…I stopped having my period due to my ED for about two to three years. I was also put on progesterone (I think?) during that time, which did induce a period. I started to gain weight about two years ago, and I did have periods on my own for several months. I then went on the pill for contraceptive reaons, so I’ve been getting my period regularly. The most important thing is that you’re taking care of yourself and not restricting fats in the way that you used to. One thing that I keep telling myself is that I DO want to be healthy so that I can have children…it motivates me to maintain a healthier weight. I really think that you will be fine and shouldn’t have any more trouble than a woman who has not experiences these issues. Of course, I’m not a doctor, so you should speak to your doc about it for more information. I would also recommend reading Gaining: Life after eating disorders. One of the things that struck me was that many of the women in the book, who had been at lower weights for longer periods of time than I was, were able to have and carry children. It definitely gave me some hope!

Does your Fiance know about your history with anorexia? If not, I really encourage you to share with him. My Darling Husband is my biggest supporter in staying healthy, and I’m sure your Fiance only wants the best for you as well. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

A family member of mine had severe anorexia throughout her high school and college years. At her lowest, she was probably around 80 pounds (5’4″ tall). Once she graduated college and recovered from anorexia, she had 3 children over the next 7 years. Everyone’s health is different but the human body is beautifully designed and can do amazing things. I hope you’re able to consult with healthcare professionals that are able to assist you with this and meet your needs. Good luck, Hun!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have to second the suggestion to talk to a doctor about it. If you can, look for someone who has experience with anorexic/post-anorexic patients; I find doctors are a lot easier to talk to if I don’t have to explain every little detail of my life to them (from the perspective of being queer). I know there are websites and forums where queer people trade tips about good doctors who listen and understand–there might be something similar for recovering anorexic people. Have you been evaluated for potential heart problems? It’s worth knowing about so you can take good care of your heart–you’ll need it when you’re pumping blood for two!

(But seriously, if you see a crappy doctor who isn’t listening to you and makes you feel bad, switch doctors. Immediately. You don’t have to put up with any crap from someone just because they’ve got a degree. There are other, better doctors. Always true, especially with respect to psych issues. And, for some reason, OB/GYN. OB seems to attract some real jerks, so don’t be afraid to keep looking until you find a doctor who’s right for you.)

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You’ll have to talk to a doctor to know for sure but it is possible that you hurt your fertility long term with your ED. A friend of mine struggled with ana (to the point she would have to monitor her blood pressure because it would drop regularly and she would faint) and she was told by her doctor the odds of her conceiving after what she put her body through are slim to none. She isn’t TTC yet, but they monitor her hormone levels and although she has started getting her period again, hormonally she wouldn’t be able to get pregnant.

You really need to be honest with your SO and go see a doctor ASAP so you can be prepared, and so can he!

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