(Closed) Recovered from Gender Disappointment!

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Cwoodward:  So glad you are connecting with your son and things have changed for you. You are truly blessed to be having a baby πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

That’s awesome! I am worried I will feel the same way ( when we get PG, IF it’s a boy!) so it’s nice to read about how you got over it πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

I think we all have our secret gender preferences. It’s great that you are now happy with your situation and I think it will be just plain adorable to see your husband and son have “boy time” together. In my experience, when boys are little it’s all about mom and at least for me, I was daddy’s little girl. You will have a great bond with that little man! Congratulations πŸ™‚ And maybe your next child will be a girl for big brother to take care of.

My Fiance and I both want to have boys – three of them to be exact – but I will be happy with either gender (I hope!). We lost our son last year through miscarriage and we are not currently TTC until after our official wedding. After that experience, all I can hope for is a healthy baby that we carry until term πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

Thanks for your honesty and congrats.  

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

That is great! How exciting for you πŸ™‚ This is the reason I plan to find out rather than go team green.

I thought I really wanted a girl for the longest time. Then I saw this ad the other day (this is such a stupid story but I’m telling it anyway) and am dying for a boy. I think it’s because my Fiance looks exactly like a mini version of him πŸ™‚

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jgdx9zwInB4

 

 

 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Thanks for sharing. If I’m completely honest I think there’s a part of me that hopes it’s a girl, but it’s good to know that even if I am initially a little disappointed, I’ll probably get past it pretty quickly.

So happy for you and your little man!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@FauxBoho:  OMG!!! Cutest little boy ever right?!?

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Thank you for the honest story. I actually teared up reading how you described your bond. Beautiful! Congrats and all the best!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

This is part of the reason I didn’t want to be team green anymore. A few days before my 20 week scan I talked to Darling Husband about possibly wanting to find out because I too, am hoping for a girl. I eventually decided against it and stayed team green. I’m 29 weeks and soooo sooo excited for the moment our baby is born and my Darling Husband gets to tell me what it is.

Secretly though, I’ve been convincing myself it’s a boy, just so I don’t get my hopes up although I know in the moment of delivery, I won’t care at all I’ll just want a healthy baby.

Thanks for sharing your story!

 

 

 

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Cwoodward:  You are going to have such a great time with your little man!  Like you I was dreaming of a princess with my first and was a little disappointed when we found out it was a boy.  Like you, I was really able to bond with him as his birth approached and now, I soooo can’t imagine my life without my little man in it!  My little guy is about to turn 2 and he is ALL BOY but such a Mama’s boy.  When he is hurt or when he needs reassurance, all he wants is his Mama and it is such a special, special thing.  I am now pregnant with number 2 and she is a girl so I am getting to do the princess thing now, but I even had a moment of sadness when we found out she was a girl as I so loved every moment with my son and wanted to give him a brother to bond with! 

Congrad’s on your pending arrival….Brush up now on trucks, diggers and excavators as you will learn all the different types Laughing (who knew the world of trucks was so vast!)

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

If I choose to have a baby, I know how much I also want a girl. I’m too selfish about it right now. Yes we all want healthy. But I think it’s natural to want one over the other. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

That is so sweet! I am not expecting right now, but I fear that I will have massive gender disappointment whenever I do end up pregnant. Especially because I only want ONE child and will get my tubes tied afterwards. I have a very strong urge to have a boy. I am very glad to hear that you’re bonding with your son and how you’re excited for his arrival! I hope that I will recovery quickly too if I end up being initially disappointed. (But I am still crossing my fingers for a boy lol!)

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

So glad to hear you got over the disappointment πŸ™‚ And Congrats on the little boy! I think having a little bit of a preference is normal. Before getting pregnant, I didn’t care either way, but for some reason right when I got pregnant, I felt that it was a girl, and was having lots of dreams about girls and fantasizing about having a little girl. But when it got close to my anatomy scan, I started having boy dreams and I think it may have been myself trying to avoid disappointment if it was a boy. Turns out my initial feelings were right and it’s a girl, but I definitely would have been happy either way. Just remember you can never really guarantee that a little girl would have liked tutus and princesses anyway πŸ˜‰ I think it is crazy how much we prepare our unborn children for their gender roles!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Thanks for sharing.  I’ll confess here (not IRL) that I really want a boy.  We’re still undecided about finding out the gender.  If we do, we would do a small gender reveal party with our immediates probably later in the pregnancy or maybe even do it at the shower.  I just don’t know if it’s better to learn early and get the disappointment out or later after delivery when I hope I’ll just be happy the baby’s here.

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