(Closed) Recycling previous engagement diamond

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would ask your fiance how he feels about it.  I know a girl who used the diamond from her engagement ring from her first marriage in her new engagement ring.  Her fiance was very practical and not at all sentimental and was totally fine with the idea when she brought it up (although in that case, I think it helped that it was a diamond from her family, not one the ex-husband had bought).

On the other hand, a lot of guys might be uncomfortable with their FI/wife wearing the diamond from a previous engagement ring purchased by an ex-fiance, even if it was reset and not worn on the left hand.   I know I’d not be ok with my husband (who was married before) wearing his previous wedding band in ANY form.  He sold it and bought me a watch with the money.

I really think you need to talk to him and get his input.

EDIT:  I just noticed this is your first post.  Welcome to the Bee!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Personally, I wouldn’t wear it. I also have jewelry from ex-boyfriends that I keep because it would feel weird to give it away or sell it, but I never wear it. I would feel like I was being a little disrespectful to my Fiance if I wore his ring on one hand, and a ring made with a diamond given to me by an ex on the other. Not saying that’s your intention, of course, it’s just how it would make me feel. Keep it in your jewelry box and maybe later on down the line, when you’ve been married awhile and feel less attached to it, you can use it to make into a piece of jewelry as a gift to a family member or something. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I had a right hand ring made from the stones from my ering and wedding ring from my first marriage.  I felt empowered by the idea of basically “re-fashioning” my past and making it my own (I was only 20 when we split and faced a lot of judgement, so this was a way for me to do something positive for myself).  It was the strangest thing, I HATED wearing it!  I’m not superstitious either, but it’s amost like I felt twitchy every time I wore it.  15 years later and I think I’ve worn it maybe 20-30 times, so it was definitely not worth the money having it re-set.  As for how your Fiance might feel, I know my current SO would not like for me to wear it every day…so, we’re selling the gold for scrap, and the stones to a gem dealer he knows.  To sum up, no matter how casual you feel about it, jewelry is suffused with sentimentality, it’s used to mark all the biggest occaisons in our lives, and I feel like it’s better to make a clean break and rid yourself of any associations with past relationships.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m going through the same thing… I just take it out and look at it once in a while but a year later I still can’t wear figure out what to do with my previous engagement ring… ugh =(

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’d probably sell the first ring and use the money to pay for my new ring.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I thought of that, and decided instead to sell all of my jewelry that my ex-fiance got me. I felt weird doing so, but I spent the money on a vacation with friends who helped me get over that arse! 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

As long as you have talked to Fiance about it and he is ok with the idea, I say go for it! If you don’t use it as a righ hand fashion ring, maybe you could make it into a pendant necklace? That would completely change it.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think I’d sell the old ring.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

Hmm, if it were me I would sell it. Put the money towards something else 🙂

Welcome to the Bee! >.<

Post # 12
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1568 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have a small three stone diamond ring from an ex, as well as a sapphire with diamond accents. I never wear them and was thinking of selling them but wouldnt get too much for them (the diamonds are graded high but really small & white gold settings). I wore them when I first started dating my now Fiance as I did not see them in any sentimental way. No I do not wear them, not b/c they aren’t pretty but I just feel weird. I have cousin who is about 7 yrs old now, I’ll prolly wait a few years and just give them to her when she gets to an age when she will appreciate them. If Fiance and I have kids I think I would feel weird passing them down to our daughter.

That being said, my parents who have been happily married for 30 years have rings made out of my dad’s previous wedding bands. When they were young and money was tight he had the previous ones melted down and designed something new for him and my mom. My mom loves her ring no less than if it were brand new.

I think it really depends on how sentimental you and Fiance are. My Fiance is very practical & money conscious but I think I would wound is pride wearing a ring given by an ex. But then again I don’t know for sure b/c I’ve never asked. Also, do you think the princess cut diamond will outshine your new rings? If so maybe rethink it?

My friend had her 1.5 round cut solitare from a previous marriage that ended in divorce made into a pendant whihc she wears, I don’t think many people know its form her old ering.

I think you have a lot of options, just run them by Fiance =)

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i’d probably sell and buy a new one – but my sister has a beautiful 1ct round diamond that my grandmother left to her -she had it in her egagement ring when she got married, when she divorced she had it put into a necklace and i know her boyfriend has been thinking about getting it reset and possibly proposing. so really, it depends, if it doesnt offend your boyfriend then i dont see the harm in resetting it or wearing it on your right hand but i would take into consideration how it makes him feel. 

 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I’d keep the diamond and put it into a new setting! it’s not like it’s cursed or anything.

money-wise, it’s kind of foolish to sell it, you won’t get the amount of money that was spent on it, and it might save you a lot by recycling the stone.

Post # 15
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284 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am also the product of a failed engagement. It took me several months, but I eventually traded the engagement ring in and used the trade to purchase a diamond tennis bracelet. The wedding band I also traded in and purchased a set of diamond earrings and 2 right hand rings. The diamonds and gold were not the same, but it still “came” from him I guess. I held onto the promise ring because I loved the cut of the diamond and figured that I would use it one day for something. I offered it to my fiance to trade in to help purchase a new engagement ring, but he wouldn’t take it. He knows how I obtained the other jewlery and that doesn’t bother him. I ended up selling the promise ring for cash at a diamond/gold swap. I think it depends on how your Fiance feels about the current ring…if you can use it, use it…I don’t think you are weird for not wanting to get rid of it, it’s part of your history. I traded mine because I knew that I would never wear an e-ring that my husband didn’t give me, and the eternity band is a wedding band, I didn’t want to wear that on my right hand.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Have you thought about resetting it as a pendant necklace instead of a ring?  I feel like that carries less sentimentality than a ring… just a thought.

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