(Closed) Recycling your SO's old engagement rings from past fiances?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you wear jewelry that was made from your SO's ex-fiance's engagement ring?
    No way, that jewelry is tainted : (115 votes)
    45 %
    Maybe but I would feel weird about it : (34 votes)
    13 %
    Depends on my SO and his attitude about his past relationships : (31 votes)
    12 %
    Sure, diamonds are sparkly and that's all that matters! : (37 votes)
    14 %
    Sure, it shouldn't matter about the history of the jewelry. Just focus on the future! : (40 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
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    1556 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’d do it.  But then I am very practical.  But if you think it will bother you, the financial savings is just not worth it.  

    If it were me, I’d have the diamonds reset into something I loved.  Remember, YOU are the one he will actually marry…you got both him AND their rings!

    Post # 4
    Member
    2874 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    id feel a little bit weird about it but i think i would take the stone and put in a new ring. i dont think i could wear the exact same ring that had been on another woman’s finger without changes

    Post # 5
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    6743 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I consider myself practical, too, but I would never do it.  I would be really weirded/creeped out about it and it would probably be a constant reminder every time I looked at that jewelry that there were 2 other girls he thought worthy enough of a proposal before me. 

    I am a very jealous person though..

    Post # 6
    Member
    263 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Could you perhaps use one of the rings as a trade-in somewhere? Sometimes jewelers are willing to give you closer to what you actually paid for the ring if you’re using the value toward something in their store. I had an engagement ring that I kept from a past fiance of mine (because I paid for it) and SO and I were able to use it as a trade-in, providing what we bought was twice the value of the first ring.

    I would never want to actually wear anything that belonged to an ex, though. I didn’t even want to wear any part of a ring from my own broken engagement, so I can’t imagine wanting to wear something that belonged to my SO’s ex.

    In the end, do what you think is the best for your situation, of course. 🙂

    Post # 7
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    3668 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I attach meaning to things… I don’t think I’d be able to do it without being reminded of his exes 🙁

    Post # 9
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    4951 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @Azalea_Bee:  I’d use them! I have no problem with it. I don’t believe in the whole “bad energy” thing. And it will save money! I’m practical that way.

    Post # 10
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    4150 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    The only way I would wear it is if it were a ring that was passed down through the family and the ex-FI gave it back to him since it was a family ring and has meaning.  Otherwise hell no, I’d want my very own.

    Post # 11
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    928 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Edited to say: I’d use them to make another ring. And every time I looked at my ring I’d think ‘Ha bitches, he chose me!’

    Post # 12
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    684 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I would not use the rings. Just sell them on DiamondBistro or kajiji. Why start a new engagement with old memories. I don’t understand why he bothered holding on to them.

     

    Post # 13
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    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I would at the very least have the center stone reset into something else. Most likely I would try to trade them in for something completely new. I think it’s a personal thing and if it doesn’t bother you then go for it! No judgement here 🙂

    Post # 14
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    14444 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’d use them.  I’m practical and would see it as nothing more than money saved for us.  He’s already spent the money, you now have pretty shiny diamonds, might as well make the best of it.  Spending more money on new diamonds isnt going to erase the past.  The future is the future with or without already bought diamonds being used.

    Post # 15
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    4352 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @PinkPandaBear: lol. I bet they would like you if they met you on the street and recognized the ring.

     @Azalea_Bee:  I was going to say no, but I really like the 3 stone halo ring. Are they very different from what you would want if you could pick your own ring? Generally I wouldn’t mind that much if they were set as earrings/necklace but as my engagement ring would be weird.

    Post # 16
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    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’d be more concerned about marrying someone who’s been engaged 3 times than using the jewelry. Save the money! And make sure you guys have talked through the whole previous engagement thing…yikes!

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