(Closed) Recycling your SO's old engagement rings from past fiances?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you wear jewelry that was made from your SO's ex-fiance's engagement ring?

    No way, that jewelry is tainted

    Maybe but I would feel weird about it

    Depends on my SO and his attitude about his past relationships

    Sure, diamonds are sparkly and that's all that matters!

    Sure, it shouldn't matter about the history of the jewelry. Just focus on the future!

  • Post # 17
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I’d rather have even $1,000 than say, a pair of earrings or a necklace made with old fiancee’s diamonds.  I’m a jealous chick, too.  🙂

    Take that money and put it towards your honeymoon!  

    Post # 18
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I would use them.  If they are reset its a different ring IMO.  I have diamonds from Fiance mom and that marriage didn’t work out.  I don’t think of them as tainted or anything.  She bought them for herself.  And she wanted me to have them.  She and Fiance picked out a new setting that fit my style.  So its is “my ring.” 

    Post # 19
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @Azalea_Bee:  I wouldn’t want to do it. Sure, from a practical point of view I guess it makes sense, but I’d always know where the diamonds came from etc. and that wouldn’t sit well with me.

    I’m sure he could get more than $1,000 if he does a bit more research on them unless they’re really crappy diamonds.

    I understand your concern about how he might not take marriage as seriously as you hope he does, but just remember that actions speak louder than words. Is he good to you? Is he mature and responsible? Those types of things are more important than the fact that he was engaged twice in the past. It sounds like the second time really wasn’t his fault and he had every intention of marrying her.

    Post # 20
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’d be pissed that he bought the second girl a new ring, but now can’t/won’t buy one for you.

    I’d take something super simple, it wouldn’t even have to have a diamond, just so I wouldn’t have to wear a ring bought for someone else.

    Additionally, I don’t know where he’s buying these rings, or maybe if he overpaid initially, but I’m really surprised about the low appraisal (considering the purchase price).

    Post # 21
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My mom’s ring from my stepdad currently holds the following stones:

     

    1 diamond from when she was married to my dad

    1 diamond from when my stepdad was engaged (but not married) to an ex

    1 new diamond

     

    I think it’s weird, but also kind of cool… since her “ex” is my dad, I appreciate the symbolism that that marriage wasn’t wasted. I don’t really care about my stepdad’s ex’s diamond…that’s between them LOL…but it seems fair since she’s using my dad’s diamond.

     

    She said the idea was like…taking two pasts and merging them into something new and beautiful.

     

    Why not! lol

    Post # 22
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Personally, i’d be making something with those diamonds. WHY waste them? Its in the past. 

    Post # 23
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I am the “sentimental” type, so my first vote would be H3LL NO

    But I am also a Jewellery Nut, so I know how the Diamond World works…

    Best bet scenario would be to recoup some of the value within the rings by going back to the Original Jewellery Stores to see if you can upgrade… using the ring(s) as a trade-in for a more expensive piece (example… you have a $ 3,000 ring, and they’ll let you use it against a $ 5,000 piece of jewellery). 

    Sure it means you might have to save to layout some more cash, but quite honestly, the E-Ring isn’t going to get any less valuable, and getting rid of it by any other way of SELLING IT isn’t going to bring in nearly its real value to you ($ 3,000 ring… they may give you what $ 800 for ???)

    Second option, would be have the Diamonds removed.  And then reset into something else.  You could sell the gold to the Jeweller who will design your NEW piece, or you could sell it independently (altho to the Jeweller doing the work will probably give you the best bang for your buck).

    Of course, in the second scenario you’ll probably have to also lay out some additional monies… but in the end you’d have an amazing piece of jewellery to wear (or more than one piece, if you use the MANY rocks shown to do something like Earrings & a Pendant for example… Personally I’m visualizing that option… and getting quite giddy at the prospects)

    In the meantime… I’d make sure that the rings as they are appraised.  Insured.  And put into a Safety Deposit Box.

    Hope this helps,

     

    Post # 24
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I do it since many diamonds are reused at jewelers all the time! They buy estate sales and extract the diamonds and they usually end up in engagement rings.

    Post # 25
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Normally I’d be bothered that he can’t get me a brand new ring but he got rings for them, but these are hard times right now. I’d rather save money and put it toward the wedding or other things.

    Post # 26
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    TO – babymakes3: & seevan07 who said,

    I’d be pissed that he bought the second girl a new ring, but now can’t/won’t buy one for you.

    And

    Normally I’d be bothered that he can’t get me a brand new ring but he got rings for them, but these are hard times right now. I’d rather save money and put it toward the wedding or other things.

    Hmm, that is a perspective I didn’t get when the OP said… her SO was going “to buy another piece of jewellery“… I think if it was to be an E-Ring, she would have said that (as she is currently not engaged to him).

    But I could be wrong.

     

    Post # 27
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    SO knows there is no way in hell that would fly with me.

    Post # 28
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I can see a beautiful set of diamond earrings made of the two side stones of the halo set!!!

    Or you could trade the halo ring in for another princess cut diamond and use the two princess cuts as earrings!!!

    Use them!  No need to waste!  Youve got him – they dont!

    Post # 29
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I agree with the practical girls. I would do it, for sure.

    Post # 30
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    Blushing bee

    I couldn’t wear a ring purchased w another woman in mind, but if the diamonds were reset, I don’t think it would bother me too much. My SO is divorced. If he reset his exs diamond in a nicer setting than he gave her, I don’t think it would bother me. Id see it as money saved for us to use on something else. I think I’m okay with it because I am completely confident that our relationship is 100% better than what he had with her. And that he feelsthe same. If anything, the diamond wold be a reminder to me of all weve been through and how much better off weare today.

    Post # 31
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’d be allll over a diamond necklace or pendant 😀

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