(Closed) Recycling your SO's old engagement rings from past fiances?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you wear jewelry that was made from your SO's ex-fiance's engagement ring?

    No way, that jewelry is tainted

    Maybe but I would feel weird about it

    Depends on my SO and his attitude about his past relationships

    Sure, diamonds are sparkly and that's all that matters!

    Sure, it shouldn't matter about the history of the jewelry. Just focus on the future!

  • Post # 33
    429 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    My first reaction was HELL NO! I honestly couldnt wear a ring that was meant for another woman it would be soooo tainted IMO. But then I read your last comment and saw you want it for another piece of jewellery and I think thats a good idea, why not? Earings arent something that represent his love for you and the bond you share together they are just earings so who cares where the diamonds came from but for an e-ring forget it haha. Im glad you are getting your own ring :o)

    Post # 34
    2874 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

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    @Azalea_Bee:  oh for another piece of jewellery, then hell yes! earrings a pendant would be fine with me

    i was only a bit dubious about it being an engagement ring

    Post # 35
    6255 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I’d use the gold and the sidestones for a new custom ring, but I’d ask him to get me a new center stone. You should be able to get a pretty rockin’ center stone with the money you save, because you’ll pretty much just have to pay for the jewelers’ labor.


    Post # 36
    3716 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: City, State

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    @Azalea_Bee:  Perfect. You’ll have yourself some beautiful earings and 2 necklaces. I would do it in a heartbeat.

    Recycled e-ring, never. But I would never let diamonds just sit at the bank.

    Post # 37
    4322 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    @Azalea_Bee:  I’d do it. It’s just “stuff.” If the ring stayed in its original design, I’d be a little put off, but if we designed a ring together, that’s not a problem.

    Post # 38
    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Oh ok, now I understand. However, I’d still try to sell the rings and get whatever money you can from them, unless you are in need of jewelry or would really love the earrings or a necklace. $1000 in your (his) pocket is better than jewelry that you don’t want/need collecting dust in a jewelry box.

    Post # 39
    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

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    @inky_1:  ha I would like to see that ring with the ex’s stones! LOL

    Post # 40
    2605 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I remember when I had my ering, wband and promise ring from my first marriage re-made into my “divorce” ring way back when.  I thought “why waste all this perfectly good gold and diamonds?”  Well, the custom work cost about $1200.00 and all three rings together probably only cost about $800 to buy new, so in the end, I regretted spending the money.

    I know you’ll never get back a fraction of what he paid for them, but I’d just sell them honestly.  Try listing them on ebay just to see what you can get for them at least.  You can set a reserve price to ensure that you achieve a minumim price from the auction before selling them.


    Post # 41
    162 posts
    Blushing bee

    I don’t think either of them are large enough rocks to be worth hanging onto with the associated bad memories. If my SO owned a 3ct diamond there’s no way in hell anyone would prise it away from me, no matter who it previously belonged to! But with small diamonds like those, I’d just sell them. 

    Post # 42
    14 posts
    • Wedding: October 2013

    The past is the past. Dump the rings and move onto something new!

    Post # 43
    2268 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I wouldn’t want them as new earrings or a pendant or anything.

    I like the poster who suggested using them as a trade-in at a store. That will give you the most bang for your buck.

    Post # 44
    181 posts
    Blushing bee

    I can see how its kind of icky to wear something that was intended for another but its gold and diamonds! Id take them rings and re-design then and make one big ass ring to rule them all! 😀

    Post # 45
    4950 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Personally, I wouldn’t do it. If you decide to, get them re-set! Then it’s a new ring and no one will look at them and think, “Isn’t that *ex-fiancee*’s ring?”

    Post # 46
    7899 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    The “no” option is a bit to strong in my opinion, but no, I wouldn’t wear it. I’d want to trade it in or get the scrap value and apply that to new jewelry. Usually jewelers will let you trade a ring up as long as what you get costs more and you get to keep most or all of the value of the original item. If not, you can get the scrap or pawn value.

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