(Closed) red flags or insecurity???

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
4272 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Ask him if you can go with next time.

Post # 4
3624 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Nothing that you’ve described seems like a red flag. It must be really hard for him not to see his kids everyday.

Post # 5
1024 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I agree. This stuff seems normal. Do you think your jealous of his ex in any way?

Post # 6
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

As a once married person, this really is quite normal… for him it is most likely ALL about his kids.

You are more than likely reading a lot more into this, because you probably haven’t been in his situation (Divorced with Kids)… and guessing that you are fairly young, because “jealousy” is a bigger concern for women in their teens, 20s and 30s… not so much for more mature women (at some point you figure out that you either trust a man… or you don’t… it really isn’t about the OTHER WOMEN). 

Trust me, when you are Divorced from some one, most Exes would never want to get together because they’ve “been there done that”… and the reality is pretty grim… “the attraction” is not there any longer… just that you have a past in common, and kids.  The past you can “get passed”… the kids, well they will be a fact of life the rest of your lives (you can stop being a Husband, but you never stop being a Dad… kids can really tug at your heart-strings… and will often come before all else… including subsequent Wives OR Girlfriends)

Hope this helps,


Post # 7
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

I think it sounds like he’s being honest and open with you, which is a good thing.

Post # 8
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It sounds like he likes going over there so he can spend time with his kids, not his ex. Unless there’s any other suspicious behavior, you should let this go and appreciate that he’s good man who wants to be there for his kids.

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