- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
So, I decided to post this to the hive, even though it probably works better in the east asian sub forum. I think this has great romantic symbolism and would like to get a wider audience.
I plan to incorporate this in my big day, pending Fiance approval (i doubt he’d say no because it’s so simple!). My Maid/Matron of Honor reminded me of this when she was talking about some asian wedding customs and a derivative of it would be to tie a red string around each of your wedding bands on the wedding day to symbolize this story. It’s so simple and discreet, i just love it!!
Anyone else incoroporate something like this on their big day? Am wondering what similar ideas are out there! 🙂
Anywho, here’s the background
The red string of fate, also referred to as the red thread of destiny, red thread of fate, and other variants, is an East Asian belief originating from Chinese legend and is also used in Japanese legend. According to this myth, the gods tie an invisible red string around the ankles of men and women who are destined to be soul mates and will one day marry each other. Often, in Japanese culture, it is thought to be tied around the pinky. According to Chinese legend, the deity in charge of “the red thread” is believed to be Yue Xia Lao (æœˆä¸‹è€) (often abbreviated to “Yuelao” [æœˆè€]), the old lunar matchmaker god who is also in charge of marriages.
The two people connected by the red thread are destined lovers, regardless of time, place or circumstances. This magical cord may stretch or tangle, but never break. This myth is similar to the Western concept of soulmates or a twin flame.
One story featuring the red string of fate involves a young boy. Walking home one night, a young boy sees an old man standing beneath the moonlight (Yue Xia Lao). The man explains to the boy that he is attached to his destined wife by a red thread. Yue Xia Lao shows the boy the young girl who is destined to be his wife. Being young and having no interest in having a wife, the young boy picks up a rock and throws it at the girl, running away. Many years later, when the boy has grown into a young man, his parents arrange a wedding for him. On the night of his wedding, his wife waits for him in their bedroom, with the traditional veil covering her face. Raising it, the man is delighted to find that his wife is one of the great beauties of his village. However, she wears an adornment on her eyebrow. He asks her why she wears it and she responds that when she was a young girl, a boy threw a rock at her that struck her, leaving a scar on her eyebrow. She self-consciously wears the adornment to cover it up. The woman is, in fact, the same young girl connected to the man by the red thread shown to him by Yue Xia Lao back in his childhood.