(Closed) Reduce or Cancel? Courthouse Only? MAJOR DRAMA

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Honestly, I would dis-invite her. Horrible as that sounds, she is going to be a huge stain on that wedding and it seems like she has no intention of acting kindly or politely at the wedding. I would get Fiance to sit with her and tell her that she has the choice to knock it off, treat you with respect, or not come and let her know that this decision is good until the MOMENT you get married.

As a sidenote, I have NEVER said that on this site before and have read lots of these “my ____ is crazy” stories, but I think having her at the wedding is a very, very bad idea. Even if you do a courthouse wedding, she will still want to be there.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@abarber3:  My FI’s father and step-mom are not invited to our wedding for similar craziness. I would suggest that you have a “lookout” person who is able to discretely escort her off the premises WHEN she shows up…. Ours is my father and our wedding coordinator.

If she is harrassing you, I’d start documenting it as best you can and threaten to file a police report. If something does go completely crazy, as least the police will be aware of what is going on and you will have history to prove that she is trying to…er… not even sure what she is trying to do!

Post # 6
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323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Wow! That’s brutal. I can’t imagine what you’re going through. My SO’s parents have been so excepting to me and he’s an only child. His friends are like his siblings and we al get along nicely!

I really hope that you stand by your decision of not having her as a guest for YOUR special day. That the baby have her bottle! It’s also nice to see that your Fiance is in agreement with your stance! All the best!

Post # 7
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@abarber3:  At this point, reading your story, I don’t trust your Future Sister-In-Law to behave herself. I would just elope.

Call your mother and your closet friends and spend the weekend at a winery or a nice bed and breakfast that does weddings and go do it then. Then, I would have a large reception later on.

I would hate you to spend your wedding day upset over something she did. She sounds like she has mental issues

Post # 8
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989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would elope as well.  This is just a powder keg waiting to explode unfortunately.

Who was the neutral mediator?  I’m curious why s/he took the family’s side.  Was s/he truly neutral?  Is there any truth to what the family is saying?  You sound so reasonable in your post that I’m totally befuddled about what’s going on here.

Post # 10
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Hello no, don’t let this little spoild B ruin your wedding. Postpone if you have too, chop their side of the guest list with all the drama. Why give her the statifaction. Your Fi needs to step in and tell her in no uncertain terms what he is going to tolerate and not tolerate. Block her from facebook, don’t take her texts or reply to her nonesense. Your Fi should be the only one communicating with her. This is beyond crazy. I can’t tell if your Future Mother-In-Law agrees with her, or if it’s the case of a spoiled brat with a parent not being able to rein in her daughter. Either way she needs a talking too also. No way in hell would I have a 19 year old dictating my life, or speaking to my mother in that fashion. I’m pissed off for you!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@abarber3:  I love your venue. But I love what the above PP said. Your Fiance needs to set her straight. If she does not come to the wedding so be it. I would have your big wedding but I would have her step down as Bridesmaid or Best Man. She is not worth it whatsoever. She is disrespectful to you.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Please do NOT invite this crazy woman.  Seriously, if my parents heard that on the phone she would be denied access to the building, let alone the wedding.

 

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Not only would I not invite her, I also wouldn’t invite the rest of his crazy family that seems to condone her bad behaviour. Where is your Fiance in all of this? Why isn’t he standing up for you and telling them to cut the bullshit or none of them will be invited? 

If it were me, I would be either be planning my wedding without his family, or eloping to an island. 

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