Post # 1
I am finding the recent posts popping up of Bee’s in abusive relationships are really sitting heavy with me. I am one of the lucky who have never dealt with a physically abusive situation. I was in a pretty toxic emotional relationship years ago, but that doesn’t compare what these ladies are going through.
Makes me sad to think so many wonderful, kind, generous individuals are suffering this way. Just want them all to know that there is better out there, and you do deserve it, every last one of you.
Post # 3
Amen. I’m In total agreeance!
Post # 4
Word. I haven’t commented on any of the posts, but they have been in my thoughts today and I hope they are safe!
Post # 5
I’m really glad you posted this! Thank you for having the courage to stand up for them! I have been contemplating on whether to comment or not on some of those post- so i just say a little prayer for them and hope somehow it reaches them 🙂
Post # 6
same as all pp’s and op’s
thanks for posting
Post # 7
This is something that happens everyday, probably to friends and family members, and we are around them and totally unaware. I do quite a bit of volunteer work in this field and every day I am shocked by how common this is, amongst so many lines; It’s in every race, every wealth category, in same sex relationships, etc. The stats can be shocking
- Around the world, at least one in three women has been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused during her lifetime.
- As many as 324,000 women each year experience intimate partner violence during their pregnancy.
- On average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in this country every day.
- Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women between the ages of 15 and 44 in the United States.
- Pregnant and recently pregnant women are more likely to be victims of homicide than to die of any other cause.
- Approximately one in five female high school students reports being physically and/or sexually abused by a dating partner.
- Three in four women (76%) who reported they had been raped and/or physically assaulted since age 18 said that a current or former husband, cohabiting partner, or date committed the assault.
Post # 8
@mwitter80: That’s absolutely horrifying.
Those situations are terribly sad. But I am always blown away by how strong and incredible women are and their ability to fight for themselves and for others and overcome such hopeless situations. Women are truly wonderful, amazing creatures.
Post # 9
@Take The Reins: First, I just want to say “well said!”.
Second, I’ve said in a previous post and will say it again that emotional abuse is just as harmful to a person if not worse, than physical abuse bc you can’t see the bruises.
Third, to victims of abuse: Oprah once said “when a person shows you who they are, believe them”. Do not give 2nd chances. Do not fall for apologies. One time is too many.
Fourth, I worked in domestic violence. Please don’t be another death statistic. Please be brave and courageous and love yourself enough to leave. Again, the 1st time is too many. It WILL happen again. Don’t fool yourself.
Post # 10
I’ve noticed a lot of those posts too, and it worries me that a lot of the bees who post disappear (I’m thinking of “shutout” right now). I hope that having support from all the ladies here gave them the confidence to get out and stay safe and hope that one day we will get an update letting us know.
Post # 11
So glad there are so many other supportive Bee’s out there. If we can help just one other bee, I guess we made a difference.
Post # 12
SO SAD. And what makes me even more sad is that they give them second chances and numerous chances and have that hope they will change because these men really do brainwash you and just bury your confidence.
I was in an extremely mentally and emotionally abusive relationship for 6 years. When I finally got the courage and the confidence to break it off…He completely lost control, freaked out, and put his hands on me. It was HORRIFYING. I literally felt like I saw my life flash before my eyes and I didn’t know how I was going to get out of it. He left so I called the cops because I was so shaken up. Even as I was breaking it off with him, I had this aching feeling that I maybe still loved him and could give him another chance because he was crying and the whole nine yards. After he put his hands on me, it made staying away from him SOOO EASY. I had no regrets, no second thoughts, nothing. I couldn’t BELIEVE he had crossed that line with me, after all we had been through and everything I had done for him. I was disgusted and that was definitely the breaking point. I pray these ladies find the courage and the strenth to know that they deserve better and NO kind of abuse is okay and shouldn’t be tolerated. Men who do this are insecure and that is definitely not what love is about :-
Post # 14
Having been in the situation my heart breaks for the bees that have posted that their are being abused. I think it is so sad that sometimes the domestic violence shelters are so full they have to turn people away. I know how scary it is to leave a bad situation. I was talking to a gal on here a few months ago that was being abused. I was willing to drive to Baltimore to get her out. Her family refused to get involved. She wanted to take her things and no one would pick her and her things up and take her to a shelter. You can request a police escort. I don’t understand why her family wouldn’t help. Sometimes you need someone to hold your hand as you walk through the valley. She felt so defeated. She changed her mind as I was driving down and her cell # no longer works. I have worried about her and her kids ever since. My heart breaks for all the wonderful loving women in this situation. I cry for all the kids who are afraid to go to sleep at night worrying about what may happen. May they all find a safe haven.