(Closed) reflecting on “waiting”

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
442 posts
Helper bee

@janella12: Thank you for posting this!  Very well put and quite helpful.:)

Post # 4
302 posts
Helper bee

@janella12: Thanks for this. I know what you mean about feeling like you get more crap than him.  I feel the exact same way. As females, it looks worse to some ppl if we move in w/ a guy before marriage, WE are the ones that get asked why we aren’t married yet, and WE are the ones who hear the most about other ppl’s wedding plans, even when we can’t make our own yet (but want to). It is so hard sometimes as a female, and I tried to explain this to Boyfriend or Best Friend but he didn’t seem to totally understand.  He said that guys have it pretty bad, too, because they are the ones expected to buy a pretty ring for everyone to ooh and ahh over and for the girl to love it.  What some guys don’t understand, though, is that any diamond ring is going to be pretty (just about, lol), we just want what it symbolilzes. And just because I want to marry him does NOT mean I want to pop out kids right after, as some guys assume (in fact, I want to wait a good while!)

“Of course, if he had asked me two years earlier, I would have been thrilled, and it would have saved me alot of anxiety and general bad feelings, especially when it comes to my family.”

I am so afraid of this. I am afraid that my proposal is ruined because the thrill is no longer there as I have been enduring a lot of anxiety and hard feelings during this waiting process.  I hope he does it sooner than later so that any excitement I still have will be present for the event. I know that since we have been through a lot together we have proven to ourselves that we can stand the test of time, but is it unfair of me to want “our” future to start now rather than later? I want to be able to celebrate our 50th anniversary and beyond, and the longer we wait the less I feel we will hit those milestones.


Post # 6
1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Thanks for sharing this. I feel very fortunate that our families understand why we are waiting. My family absolutely love my boyfriend and know that he will one day become their son and thankfully don’t hold any grudges against him for us not being married yet.

She does say a fair bit though that it will be a very happy day when she can finally see us married!

Post # 7
81 posts
Worker bee

thank you

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