Post # 1
So we signed up with a wedding planner back in November for our October ’14 wedding. At our frist meeting, my parents and I felt very good about the decision because of her relationships with different vendors and expertise. A few months later, we are really regretting our decision and are considering firing the planner. She seems to be more of a hindrance than a help- doesn’t respond to emails or phone calls, wouldn’t come for one appointment because she said helping with this particular area was not in her contract (it was explicitly listed as one of her jobs in the contract), and then the other appointments she came to, she started talking about expensive add-ons (linens, chairs, benches, china, silverware, etc) with our already very beautiful venue. Mind you, we’d already done the venue, the dress, the dj, and the cake when we’d hired her. My budget is already more than generous, but at this point, I feel like she is sending us down a path that will put us over the budget when we are already paying her $4000. I’m concerned about not having someone there to coordinate the day-of type of stuff. My parents said we could hire someone else for that. What would you bees do? I’ve asked my groom but he’s like “well we can get married without flowers! Why do we need save the dates? But what is the point of doing a registry? Why can’t we use the ugly chairs that the venue comes with?” type of stuff.
Post # 3
I’d fire her and instead hire a day-of coordinator, as that’s where most of the stress will be. You sound totally capable of organizing the rest! I find going to flower appointments and stuff like that FUN! (maybe it’s just me??). If you need a second opinion, ask a trusted friend or family member (someone who has a similar style to you) to come along for some of the more important meetings. You definitely don’t need a planner to do a registry, save the dates, etc. They’re easy as pie unless your wedding is a super-huge fancy affair with a lot of pomp and circumstance. If you need extra rentals it’s also pretty easy to call up some rental companies (or look them up online) and book them yourself.
Post # 4
@Kazza: Thanks for the response! I’m the only daughter, so I think my parents just want to make sure that everything is done 100% perfectly and it is a formal wedding (a Saturday night event). My mom is like an artistic genius so I think it would be okay for just us planning the aesthetics. I will start investigating a day of coordinator. Thanks for the advice 🙂
Post # 5
Hmmm honestly I’m wondering if she is trying to add on things and get commission on the back end (behind the scenes), typically if you are a full service coordinator it isn’t uncommon to upsale items to clients and rec. some sort of commission. BUT that should be something that she was completely transparent about when she was being hired. Before firing her I would sit down with her and let her know that at this point you are not pleased with her work and need her to focus on xyz. If she values her reputation in this business she’ll straighten up and get back to work. IF you feel even the slightest bit uncomfortable giving her this kind of feedback then that means she’s not the planner for you. At every turn you should be able to go to your planner and have those kinds of honest conversations…if you can’t something is really missing.
Good luck hun, I’m sure it will all work out. If you are looking for a coordinator in CA–I think that’s where you’re at… I’d be happy to recommend a few fabulous planners I know (sorry I’m really far from you!).