Post # 47
This is such an interesting thread! It’s so interesting to see the differences across regions. I live in Canada now and will be getting married here as well, after the guests go through the receiving line they all do a shot before heading into the reception.
Post # 48
I’m from Iowa and I’ve never attended a wedding that didn’t have an open bar, actually. Which is funny, because my "crowd" tends to be more practical and have weddings on a smaller scale and save the money for the future home, etc. I’ve never been to a plated dinner – it’s always been a buffet style reception. It’s actually very common to have deli sandwiches, potato chips, etc., at weddings in my area, but we wanted to have something a little more special, not to mention healthy, so we’re straying from regional tradition in that regard. I’ve also never been to a wedding that didn’t have the dollar dance and no one around here views it as "tacky." I think the tradition lies in family and friends pooling money together to help get them started on their new life together, and although it’s now also common to give a gift as well, no one worries too much about a dollar.
I never considered doing a groom’s cake, although now I’m creating a fake tiered cake with different sized round boxes that will be filled with FI’s favorite desserts that his family makes. I’ll be 25 when I get married, and my friends are all getting married at once. Where I’m from, getting married in your 30s would definitely make you the "old maid," and I don’t think a lot of people realize that a bride in her 30s is common elsewhere.
Post # 49
@GaBGal: I completely agree! I too can’t stand the clinking of the glasses!!! I was at a wedding too where guests had to sing a song for the bride/groom to kiss. I like the other option you talked about too- the guest has to kiss their date first.
Good luck at yours! I hope there is no clinking! (I don’t want any at mine either!)
Post # 49
From Kansas. The things that stand out to me about Kansas weddings are that they are typically open bar, the wedding party bar hops between the wedding and the reception (or takes a party bus), there is a garter toss and dollar dance, there is ALOT of polka music, weddings are always at a church or outdoors (tho I think this is changing as I recently went to one that was at some kind of hosting venue), there’s a wedding march, there is sometimes a grooms cake, and square and line dancing is pretty common. Question though, does everyone play the chicken dance song or is that a regional thing?
Post # 50
- Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center
I’m Midwestern (Chicago area), went to college in Iowa. There was definitely a dollar dance and chicken dancing in Iowa.
Currently live in Pittsburgh – Ditto to the yinzer who said cookie table!! Just had my office holiday cookie exchange today.
Great thread! Overall I echo that large differences are probably more due to class or cultural/ethnic/religous reasons than anything else, though.
Post # 51
Something I’ve encountered frequently on here is assigned seating. Having lived in Texas and Colorado, I have never been to a wedding with assigned seating. I’m not sure if this is primarily a regional thing or a class thing.
Post # 52
I’m from Chicago and live in the DC area. I’ve seen a lot of the differences, but things are still really really similar. Especially given how many friends I have that may live in the DC area, but they’re ORIGINALLY from different regions, it gets crazy. I’m 27 and my Fiance is 28. We’re the first of our DC friends to be getting married, but we’re right on track with my midwest friends who all live in more suburban areas. I think the age thing is based more on if you’re urban or rural.
The dollar dance was done exactly once in my childhood and only the drunk adults knew what was happening. Apparently the bride was from downstate Illinois, so there it was really common. My side (the groom’s) had already given thier cash to the bartenders as tips, so it all sort of fell apart 2 minutes in.
I’ve only been to a handful of non-open bar weddings and every one of them was on the East Coast. Midwest and the one Texas wedding was ALWAYS open bar. Then again, I’m Irish Catholic, so we’d never subject a guest to a cash bar. Even when the folks on the wagon (or thier kids) got married, they still had an open bar.
I think bouquet and garter toss is more based on how old you are and how traditional you are rather than region. A friend of mine put that line at “if you’ve ever watched sex and the city and related to it, you didn’t throw a bouquet.” That seemed pretty spot on.
Shit- just realized this thread is 8 years old. Interesting topic though!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 53
- Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center
Daaaang, I only just noticed how old this thread is as well!
Post # 54
I’m from the Ny area and my fiance is from the mid-west. I had never in my life seen a dollar dance before going to weddings with him in the mid-west. We won’t be doing it. I think it is a sweet sentiment but it totally kills the party mood! It takes forever, so there goes like an hour that could be fun dancing time. Every wedding I’ve been to with a dollar dance has no real dancing out on the floor afterwards.
I’ve also noticed in the midwest that the food is always buffet style and what I would consider church picnic food, like fried chicken and green beans. Now that I understand the cost of weddings I totally get it, but at first I couldn’t believe how tacky it was! In NY the weddings are always sit down, and fancier foods. They are also always at cheesy catering halls with tacky fountains and over the top decorations. In the mid-west, they could be at a rustic cabin in the woods or the KFC. Now that we are planning a wedding though, I realize what a snob I was! Wedding are so expensive, and esp in the NY area!
Post # 55
What a cool thread! I’m from the pacific northwest! I’ve ALWAYS been to open bars (or atleast unlimited beer/wine) othet than 1 recently. Any beer you wanted was a $2 fee. I was alil weirded out by this, but atleast it was cheap. I’d personally never do that because I think it’s tacky. I want my guests to have a great night out. It seems like weddings are changing tho. I used to go to receptions in big ballrooms and now theyare becoming more low key, DIY receptions. All but 1 wedding I’ve been to did the garter/bouquet toss. Ive heard of brideal luncheons, cake pulls, etc, but they haven’t made their way here (I might do those along with groom’s cake cuz I love the ideas). I’ve been to some weddings where they did a money toss/dance when I was a child and I thought they were weird then lol the weddings I’ve been to that were even the nicer ones had a catered buffet style. I’d rather the couple cut costs there than the beer 😉