Post # 1
Since this gets so many people talking about what they have seen and what is done traditionally around their neck of the woods… I want to know what is something you do regionally that seems to you is not a popular trend everywhere else? Post your trends or traditions and the state or region you are from.
I’m from MN and the things I have noticed are…
– Personal Attendants are included in every wedding
– Most wedding I have attended do NOT have a seating chart
– Bridal party always sits with the bride and groom for dinner
– I have never been to a wedding with a sweetheart table
– Cash bar or limited open bar (such as for a certain amount of time) is the norm
– Weddings end at 1am typically and I have never been to an after party
Public Service Announcement: This is NOT a thread to debate on whether or not something is socially correct or tacky. This is a thread to share what is generally seen in your area. The things I have posted, also, do not mean that every single wedding in my area has or does not have these things. Let’s keep it friendly please!
Post # 3
oooo this is going to get nasty….
Post # 4
Most of my friends have eloped or had very small weddings.. But a few I’ve been to have had:
No seating chart
Bride/Groom were not announced once they were done with the after pictures & went in to the reception..
Post # 5
@Mrs. Meowerson: I honestly don’t want it to be that way! I couldn’t believe that no one had ever heard of a personal attendant on a thread I read once. I find this fascinating.
Post # 6
I live in the Midwest, born & raised in Kansas, now live in Missouri (by a couple miles).
Weddings here typically are:
– no seating chart
– buffet style dinner
– beer or beer/wine provided, typically guests have to pay for hard liquor if they want it
– dollar dance
– fun/cheesy dances (chicken dance, hokey pokey, etc)
– in the Western part of the state especially: polka dances!
Post # 7
hmm let’s see.
i am from WA (western) and I have never been to a wedding with a sweetheart table either. there is always a big head table.
i have been to weddings with an open bar, wine and beer only, and a cash bar. i think it depends simply on the couple’s preferences.
i have been to weddings with seating charts, as well as weddings without (i am choosing to HAVE ONE).
most weddings around here are over around 10pm or 11. never really much later.
brides and grooms ALWAYS do the money dance (i have never been to a wedding where they DONT do one).
that’s all i can think of for now…..
Post # 8
Whats a personal attendant?
Ive only been to maybe 10 weddings but they have all had a seating chart.
Ive been to cash bar, open bar during cocktail hour, and open bar all night. Ive seen sweatheart tables, and bridal party with the bride & groom.
Ive only been to one after party, and thats when I was in the bridal party and we were all staying in the same hotel.
I can’t really think of anything that is specific to the MA area. Althought my mom went to a “Red Sox” wedding last year-it was a super casual backwayd wedding and all the guests had to wear Red Sox attire. She said it was the best wedding shes ever been to. I bet that would only happen in Massachusetts 🙂
Post # 9
Is it regional or cultural?
These things might be normal for my region, but in my specific culture it would be unheard of.
Post # 10
Oh and Ive never seen or heard of a money dance until reading this site!
Post # 11
alright well im from California and typically we have:
-bridesmaids all wearing the same dress
-ALWAYS have seating chart
-friends all stay in the same hotel and go to bars after wedding
Post # 12
The biggest difference I have noticed here on the bee is that where I live, the family of the bride does not host a shower- PERIOD. It is seen as a gift grab, which is kind of hilarious in a way becasue everyone knows that no matter who hosts the shower, the main purpose is to give gifts.
It is acceptable for the grooms family to host a shower as the gifts are for the bride, not the couple.
@MsBrooklynA: I too have never heard of a personal attendant.
Post # 13
also, i’ve never seen a head table and the VAST majority of weddings seem to occur in the summer
Post # 14
@Mrs. Meowerson: I think youre trying to turn this thread into something its not.
The OP clearly stated that the point of the thread wasn’t to discuss whats right or wrong. Its just to discuss differences around the country.
Post # 15
I grew up in Western PA. I have no idea what a personal attendant is.
What I have seen:
Mostly buffets, but with the occasional sit-down dinner. I’ve seen a wide range of reception venues, from church basements to VFW/fire halls, to parks, to restaurants and banquet centers.
Almost always open bar, though sometimes just beer and wine.
Polkas, chicken dance, hokey pokey….almost obligatory (sigh)
Almost always a bridal party table, I’ve never seen a sweetheart table
Mostly either no assigned seating or assigment by table, not by seat
As for gifts, it’s pretty mixed. A lot of people send gifts to the bride’s home, but others bring them to the reception or bring cash to the reception. A lot of weddings will have a “wishing well” for the guests to put the cards into.
Post # 16
@MsBrooklynA: I’m a midwest gal here too (tri-state, really, I’m constantly between MN/IA/ND), and I could copy and paste your list! Haha.
Add in @heatherrobyn:‘s dollar dance and @Neva: ‘s ‘obligatory silly dances’. We also do the ‘stealing of the bride/groom’ where the party (and some crazy aunts/uncles/family) ‘steal’ the bride and groom away to the bars for a while before the dinner. I will FIGHT this until the end, they will literally have to carry me away in a burlap sack before I skip my own cocktail hour with my family/friends (that I’m already paying for, helloooo!). Those things combined are basically every wedding I’ve been to. 🙂