Post # 17
My area has people from all over in it, so I’ve seen all sorts of different traditions. I’d never seen a sweetheart table till I went to a wedding in Cali, though. Much of my family is from Ohio and it’s always head table with attendants out there.
Post # 18
I’m from NJ, but I’ve been living in MD for 2.5 years. In NJ, you always gave a gift for the bridal shower, and money for the wedding. In MD, a lot more people (even the younger crowd) tend to give gifts for the wedding, too. I’ve never been to a wedding without a seating chart, and I’ve only been to one cash bar wedding. Definitely never heard of an attendant either.
Post # 19
what are the duties of a personal attendant? I like the concept.
Post # 20
Is a personal attendant different from a bridesmaid?
I grew up in upstate NY and now live in DC. Culturally, I come from a pretty conservative Christian background, so it is fairly typical for weddings to not have any alcohol, and (a little more rarely) no dancing.
Post # 21
To the bees wondering about personal attendants, here and here are two links from the bee where they’ve been discussed a bit. They’re the norm in some places and unheard of in others, so it was a pretty interesting discussion. Haha. In my area, they’re the “bride’s helper” all day and it’s an honor to be asked to be a PA. She/he does things like telling you when to fix your makeup, that your bra’s showing for this picture, answering your phone (or helping you avoid calls, haha), that sort of thing. Something breaks/rips/tears, she’s got ya. You are freaking out and crying and you’ve got a headache, she’s there with the tylenol and booze :-). That’s just my idea of a PA though, it varies.
Post # 22
ah so PA is current version of victorian Ladies Maid- I want one of the those;)– 365 days? not just on wedding day
Post # 23
Sorry as i’m not in a US state so thought i’d mention differences i’ve noticed between you US bees and here in the UK.
- We don’t have toss the garter
- We tend to have the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses matching
- The bride pays for the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses
- We tend to get married early afternoon. In fact I think marriages have to happen before 6pm to be legal – sure i’ve heard that unless it was a dream
- It’s rare to see brides wearing coloured shoes other than ivory – though you bees with coloured shoes, I am in awe of some of them
- I’ve never seen or heard of crinoline dying (until I came on here)
- Mother of the bride more often than not offers to pay for the bride’s dress
- We tend not to do STD, have only ever received one.
That’s all I can think of for now. 😉 Hope you find the differences of interest 😉
Post # 24
A personal attendant is 1 or 2 girls that are kind of like the brides ushers for the day. They come along with the bride and bridal party and are in charge of the brides things, the help to keep track of getting anything if the bride needs it, they may be the ones bustling the brides dress and anything else the bride may need.
Post # 25
I’m in the midwest and have the same list as you.
I used my best friends and sister for my bridesmaids but still had two close friends I wanted to include. One specifically asked to be the personal attendant as it’s considered an honor.
Most weddings I’ve attended are over at 11 p.m. but you persuade the DJ to play for another hour. Almost all venues require the guests to be gone by midnight.
Post # 26
I’m from Chicago (so midwest but big city), all the weddings I’ve been to have been…
-head table (I’ve never heard of people being offended by head tables until I came on here)
-Banquet-style dinners followed by dancing
-Escort cards, not place cards
-Save the date cards
-Sticking to etiquette, but giving it your own twist
Post # 27
I am from Southwestern Ontario.
- I have been to sit down dinners and cocktail style receptions
- The reception always goes until ~1am
- In my group open bar is the norm however I know cash bars exist in my area
- In my area Jack and Jill (fundraiser’s) are common; however, I disagree with the concept in major cities, have never been to one and it is not common in my group
- Always have a head table for the bridal party
- Always have a bouquet toss and garter toss and everyone loves it; however, I have never heard of or seen the garter being put on the person that caught the bouquet
- Everyone gives money for wedding gifts
- And something unique to Canada is that signing the marriage license is part of the wedding ceremony. There is always a small table next to the alter where this is done.
I have never seen:
- Money dances/dollar dances
- personal attendants
I had not heard of colour shoes or dyed crinoline until weddingbee either. But it made it so much better at my wedding when everyone was surprised by it 🙂
Post # 28
I’ve also never heard of the money dance!
Post # 29
I totally forgot about the Dollar Dance. That is the one thing my SO is demanding. haha
Well tell us what would happen in your culture!
Post # 30
I even had to do a google image search on the word crinoline so I could be for sure what they were talking about. 😉 Yay, glad your discovery paid off.
Post # 31
Explain the difference between a Jack and Jill and a bachelorette party. I have seen these talked about but I don’t pay enough attention.
ETA: In my area a Dollar Dance (or Money dance as some call it) is a dance where you pay a dollar or what ever you prefer to dance with the bride or groom. The Best man and Maid/Matron of Honor collect the money while you dance. I know in some areas if you pay to dance with the Bride or Groom the Bridesmaid or Best Man or Maid/Matron of Honor give you a shot of alcohol or a jello shot. We do not do that but I’m thinking about it 😉