Post # 1
This just gets so confusing! Here’s my situation: We are going Jamaica to get married in April. We invited both immediate families, but his family couldn’t afford to come, so just my mom and sister will be there. We have been getting a lot of flack for “eloping” so we decided to have a party/reception when we get back. I’ve booked a winery and have all the arrangements made and sent out invites. My question: We registered at a few places, and I have included them on my wedding website, and the wedding website URL is included on the invite. Is this tacky? Should I not expect gifts? Or should I expect gifts but not register for them? Help!
Post # 3
@QueenOfSerendip: I say register for a few things. You are correct – one should NEVER expect gifts (wedding gifts or party gifts are actually not mandatory), but in the event that someone WANTS to get you a gift they will find out if you have a registry or not and decide to pick from it or not.
I had an aunt that found ours and no one on that side of the family even knew about it. She just searched for our name under BBB. I didn’t even have a party! 🙂
I opted to not include the registry info on my wedding website when I had a Destination Wedding (that was canceled and we eloped). I didn’t want gifts, but if someone wanted to know they know how to find it out (ask around, search online).
I remember the Knot saying that including info about your registry on the wedding website is not the same as putting it on the mailed invitation. One looks outright presumptuous, the other people have to seek out that info if that want to know it (clicking through links). That was the logic I think.
Post # 4
@sienna76: Thanks! That was my thinking… I’m never in favor of putting on an invitation, but I kind of thought that if someone wanted to buy us a gift, we would be very grateful and wanted to make it easier for them!