(Closed) Register, not register, alternatives? Help please!

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think a registry makes it so much easier so you don’t end up with mismatched dishes and 20 blenders.  It seems like your Fiance would probably have problems with any of the alternative registries like a honeymoon registry.  So I’m not sure where to go with that.

Post # 4
Member
2208 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

It does sound like a traditional registry is best for you guys. I think you should present it to him as a convenience for your guests, and that you aren’t asking for gifts so much as letting people know what you need and what style of item you are interested in. Assure him that the info will not be included in the invites, so it won’t come across as gift grabby.

Post # 5
Member
179 posts
Blushing bee

As someone who isn’t having a registry, an alternative would be to have guests donate to a particular charity. This is what I’m doing since Fiance and myself are strongly against registries and receiving gifts as well. It’ll be difficult to strongarm your Fiance into having a registry, esp. with his sentiments (my Fiance is this way as well). So, if people are insisting on giving gifts we’re directing people to donate to our Kiva accounts and when the funds are being paid back we’ll just continue to lend out money.

I have nothing against people who have registries or ask for gifts. Personally I never buy anything from a registry and typically get complimented on giving the best gift out of the bunch. I just hate it when people say they don’t want gifts but still have a registry anyway. It seems hypocritical in my eyes. Some people will insist on giving something (there’s nothing that you can do stop them)… just let them decide on what to give you.

The topic ‘Register, not register, alternatives? Help please!’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors