- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
The other day I was mentioning something to my fiance that I thought would be neat to register for. He said that he feels uncomfortable asking people for gifts. He doesn’t make wish lists, birthday or Christmas lists, and when people ask him what he would like for a present, he never has an answer for them. But I know there’s a million things he would love to have because I see him oogling things online or as we pass by them in store he will say how awesome it would be to have this or that – but he would never ask for it.
Consequently, he feels uncomfortable with the concept of a registry. I don’t view a registry as asking people to buy us specific gifts. Our guests can use the registry for suggestions as they wish (or not – and that’s totally fine!). I know I personally look forward to friends’ or relatives’ registries because then I know the hard-earned cash I am spending on their gift will go toward something they really want/need/will like/will use. Since we are just starting out and there are definitely some basics that would be really handy to have, I think a registry would be a very good thing for us.
Of course, I don’t want my fiance to just have to go along with a registry if he feels the way he does about asking for gifts. I want a compromise that works for both of us. I like registries, but he feels uncomfortable with the whole concept of asking for gifts.
Any advice on a compromise we can come to both fiance and I are happy and so guests who don’t like to give cash or gift cards will feel like they have some material options? Any other creative “registry” ideas? Anyone not have a registry at all? How did that work out? Did you do something different instead?