(Closed) Registering after Engagement?!

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wouldn’t register until you have a date for a shower set…that’s the most common time for people to give gifts, and you don’t want to register too far from your wedding date, since you will find that many things are discontinued and it can be a hassle to have to keep track of your registry and keep adding things.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s nice to start a small registry after your engagement, as some people like to celebrate the occasion by sending a gift. You can always build from it later, but I’ve heard that shortly after the engagement you should start a bit of a registry to give those who would like to buy a gift some guidance.

You can always make them engagement-style gifts, like a nice punch bowl, cake cutting/serving set, photo frames for displaying pictures at the wedding, champagne glasses you’d like to toast with, etc.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Fallicious1012: We did! People kept asking! We were also having an engagement party…we didn’t go full out, but we did little things…we didn’t put the info on the invite, but it spread word of mouth…we were not expecting gifts, but we figured if that is what people wanted to do then they could.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Fallicious1012: Usually most places will let you change the date when you finalize something 🙂

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I didn’t expect engagement gifts, so we didn’t register (we weren’t having a party). Then we got THREE sets of wine glasses (on top of the FIVE we got for FI’s housewarming two years ago) as engagement gifts.  None included gift receipts and they weren’t brands I recongized from anywhere.  So now we have like 100 wine glasses hanging around collecting dust, because Fiance doesn’t drink wine and I use my 50 cent Christmas Tree Shops glasses because I don’t care if they break.

We registered quickly for a few low-price-point items after the last set of wine glasses we don’t have space or desire for.  And we did get a few things off the registry- a roasting pan, a few serving pieces.  It was WAY better than yet. more. glasses.

Our date on our registry is still wrong- I ballparked it when I registered. And I’m going to have to do a complete overhaul closer to the shower. But at least people have stopped giving us wine glasses.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Fallicious1012: I’d shoot for the middle and put July 2013, and then once you secure venues just change it. I doubt people will look at and remember the date from the registry if they’re getting you an engagement gift. Plus, if they are close enough to buy you an e-gift, they’ll likely be in the loop once the actual date is selected and receive a Save the Date or invite with the proper info. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Fallicious1012: LOL my FMILs friends and family were all begging to know where we were registered the second we got engaged!  I found it weird.  Future Mother-In-Law pestered us for months to register.  We finally registered 3 months after we got engaged.  FH’s family and several family friends got us some gifts off the registry.

Of course some stuff is being discontinued, as PPs mentioned so its kind of annoying to go back in and update stuff, but whatever.  We have a nice little gift corner in our dining room now.

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