Registering for bachelorette gifts??

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Bachelorette registry...
    Tacky and unnecessary : (144 votes)
    99 %
    Ok but uncommon : (1 votes)
    1 %
    It's common here. : (0 votes)
  • Post # 16
    2109 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Noooooooooope. My friends gifted me some lingerie and gag gifts (flavored lube, handcuffs, etc) but they did so because they wanted to and I had NO idea. There was no registry, no mention of sizes, nothing. They did it out of the goodness of their heart. Not only is it tacky to register for a bachelorette party, it is extremely out of line, IMO.

    peegee :  I went to a “guess the panty giver” parties as well. Unfortunately for me, it was a surprise OFFICE lingerie shower and all the older women I worked with got really…creative (think crotchless) with their underwear choices and it was sooooo uncomfortable. The younger women gave cute but not raunchy and were all feeling awkward. The bride was mortified! I was so glad I wasn’t working there by the time I got married!

    Post # 17
    1148 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2017


    Edit: WHOOPS I read this incorrectly. Anyway extremelyyyyyyy tacky

    Post # 18
    2657 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    I’ve also never heard of this being a thing. I did attend a bachelorette party where a bunch of us gifted the bride with new panties, but it was something we cooked up together and was a bit of an inside joke (the bride was the kind of person who would wear her undies to death before throwing them out and buying new ones lol). We guestimated her size and she had no idea we were doing it until we presented her with a basket of knickers lol.

    Post # 19
    4910 posts
    Honey bee

    aussiemum1248 :  Good point now that I think of it. I voted tacky too but perhaps this is more logical?

    Post # 20
    245 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2022

    I’m in the UK and I think people would be really shocked by this!! Usually all the attendees chip in for the bride’s activities, dinner and drinks. Don’t get me started on brides who demand a destination hen and then expect their flights and hotel paid for too…. It seems rude to expect presents.. don’t Americans have a bridal shower for gift giving? In the U.K. We don’t even have those! People might give their friend an engagement gift but even that isn’t expected at an engagement party (other than a usual hostess gift of wine, flowers etc.)

    Post # 21
    1890 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Not cool. If it’s going to be a gift-giving event, the guests shouldn’t have to pay for their own meals, and vice versa.

    Post # 22
    989 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    Next we’ll be having pre-engagement registries for proposal outfits and nail jobs.


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