(Closed) Registering for gifts: Not really interested

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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5428 posts
Bee Keeper

Then don’t, I am not registering. It’s not something you MUST do! LOL

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i know some who people register a year (or more) before the wedding and i think that’s too far in advance. so much can change with new products coming out, new trends in colors, things being discontinued/out of season, so even if you wanted to register now, you might not even want/like any of the things you picked out by the time your wedding rolls around. i think 5-6 months is a good time. i registered in april for my september wedding.

but if you really don’t want to register, you don’t have to. your wedding is several months away, so you have time to think it about it some more.

Post # 5
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578 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

You don’t have to register, but if you don’t people will still give you gifts.  If you want control over what you get, it would be helpful to register.  You’ll have to maintain it to make sure there are things available for guests to buy, but if there’s nothing left on the registry, many people will get you gift cards to that store.  If you don’t want gifts at all, you can ask for charity donations instead.  My husband and I didn’t want to register for gifts so we asked for donations to a cancer charity.  We put it on our wedding website and all of our guests followed our wishes.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@icetea:  You just need to register before your shower, and of course before invites go out, so 3 months out is probably going to be fine as well.  People are going to buy you physical gifts whether you register or not, and registering really helps them to get you gifts that you need and will use.   

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I dreaded it, too.  We’re done with one registry and about to finish the 2nd one.  I HATE asking for gifts and the whole idea of “I picked out my own gifts, so buy me one from this list!”  But family and friends insisted and said that they actually appreciate it.  So… whatever… we did it.

The one good thing I found out was about the incentive programs.  Lots of incentives out there, like Macy’s offers 5% back on a gift card for all purchases made from your registry if you have a Macy’s card and link it, and various product companies offer rewards if XX amount of dollars from their lines are purchased like shown on the link below, etc…

Good luck.  🙂

http://www1.macys.com/registry/wedding/m/gifts-with-completion

EDIT: You can also create registries online for most places in case you dread the thought of going into the stores… just a thought!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@icetea:  A few people also gave me gift cards, so I’m glad I registered somewhere that had furniture – I purchased a patio set with my gifts – yay!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We would never have registered.

And thanks to our plan of eloping, I don’t have to worry about it.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

I didn’t want to register. I threw a small fit when I was asked for the 25th time where we were registered and we finally broke down. the problem is that people do want to get you things and, as it was explained to me by my sister who learned the hard way. If you don’t register for ANYTHING then people will end up getting you nonsence things that you hate/don’t want/don’t need…. in her case 5 identical crystal platers.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@globalmargaret:  something similar happened to my cousin. she and her husband eloped and her family wanted to throw her a party to celebrate once they returned. she was adamant about not registering for gifts. but then her mother in law sent them a hideous dolphin figurine, so she very quickly put together a small registry, lol

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

Are you going on a honeymoon? Some people do the honeymoon registry and get stuff for their honeymoon.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I did it online about two months before the wedding so I’d be able to tell people where we registered when they asked. You couldn’t pay me to go into a store and do all that crap, it’s so much easier to just do it online and register for some upgrade house stuff.

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