Post # 1
We are on a budget for our wedding, and I know some of the “little things” that you don’t normally think of with the initial budget can really add up.
We were considering doing a Target registry, and I have found wedding items we need on the Target website – unity candle, guest book, card box, cake topper, cake cutting set, aisle runner, etc. I thought I could register for those and then if anyone buys them for me, that’s great, if not, the shower will be 2 months before the wedding so I’ll have time to buy them myself.
My mother thinks it’s tacky and said, “who would want to buy you an aisle runner?” Lol. So I wanted to get some feedback. I didn’t think it was tacky because it’s not like these are the only items I’d be registering for, and especially my close friends, who know we are struggling with money and that my fiance has a hard time understanding why I want some of these “extras” for our wedding day, would see no problem w/ it.
Also, just if anyone else on a budget happens to know this, the prices at Target.com were as follows…from what I’ve researched these seems pretty standard. Was anyone able to go the DIY method for any of these for significantly cheaper? (note – i’m not very crafty so it would need to be a simple project)
guest book – $20
card holder (birdcage) – $40
aisle runner – $20
cake serving set – $15
cake topper – $22
unity candle set – $30
Post # 3
I think it’s very inappropriate to have other people fund your wedding.
Post # 4
We put toasting flutes, a matching frame and cake cutting set on ours. It was recommended to us and it seemed cute at the time. So far someone has gotten us the flutes so obviously we didn’t terribly offend everyone.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t. If you have a few close friends/family that know your situation I might express your desire for these things as gifts verbally when asked what you’d like, but I wouldn’t put it out to everybody.
But hey, we got a cake topper for our wedding and we certainly didn’t register for it (unfortunately at our gift opening the next day, though) so you never know!
Post # 6
Yea it is kind of tacky. My BFF wants to have an “alcohol shower” to get liquor to serve at the wedding. I personally wouldn’t want to get a person a really nice bottle of something for their collection only to find out that it was being served at the wedding. That’s kind of like a re-gift, isn’t it?
Post # 7
As nice as it would be to have those items gifted, I wouldn’t do it. It is a bit tacky in my opinion. Guests shouldn’t be asked to fund your wedding.
Post # 8
@fallsgirl: Flutes I don’t categorize with everything else, because that’s something that you can put on display in your home and use again and again. I suppose if you asked for a silver cake serving set it would be a good gift, but not something you will never use again.
Post # 10
Wow, I’m glad I asked! I really thought my mom was being silly. Had no idea it would be construed as completely inappropriate!
Post # 11
I think some of the things you have mentioned are okay, while others are not.
We put toasting flutes, cake server and frames that were all part of a matching set on ours. They were bought and we used the flutes and cake server at our wedding. My BFF bought them for us and was excited she was getting things I’d use on that day. She even had them engraved for us. That stuff I think is typical and okay, since you will use them after the wedding.
I don’t think an aisle runner or unity candle is appropriate. I think the guest book and birdcage are on the fence but probably okay.
Hopefully you’ll get some gift cards or cash at your shower to purchase the wedding items you want.
Post # 12
I think things that can be reused in your house and could potentially just be for your life together and not for the wedding would be okay. Like the PP who said that they registered for champagne flutes, picture frames, and a cake cutting set, those don’t necessarily have to be wedding things, but an aisle runner maybe not.
I’m not having an aisle runner because one of my bridesmaids is disabled and she had issues walking on one and using her crutch at a previous wedding she was in. As in, she almost fell down while trying to make it down the aisle. So while that’s not relevant to most people’s situations, it’s something to consider.
Do you have friends that have gotten married recently? I’m borrowing my sister’s cake cutting set for my wedding (and she got married 7 years ago but still had it sitting in a drawer). You might know someone with a card box you could borrow too.
Post # 13
I added toasting flutes and a cake server on mine and my mom got upset.
Post # 15
I understand that you think it’s tacky…I really just do not. I don’t know how it’s any different from registering for any other type of gifts. However, since the idea clearly offends some, I am not going to do it.
Post # 16
The flutes and a serving set are ok, but not necessary. I can afford them and I don’t want them. You can easily skip everything on your list besides the card holder.