(Closed) Registering for "wedding" items? Tacky?

posted 4 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I think it’s very inappropriate to have other people fund your wedding.

Post # 4
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We put toasting flutes, a matching frame and cake cutting set on ours. It was recommended to us and it seemed cute at the time. So far someone has gotten us the flutes so obviously we didn’t terribly offend everyone.

Post # 5
9057 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I wouldn’t.  If you have a few close friends/family that know your situation I might express your desire for these things as gifts verbally when asked what you’d like, but I wouldn’t put it out to everybody.

But hey, we got a cake topper for our wedding and we certainly didn’t register for it (unfortunately at our gift opening the next day, though) so you never know!

Post # 6
953 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yea it is kind of tacky. My BFF wants to have an “alcohol shower” to get liquor to serve at the wedding. I personally wouldn’t want to get a person a really nice bottle of something for their collection only to find out that it was being served at the wedding. That’s kind of like a re-gift, isn’t it?

Post # 7
2073 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

As nice as it would be to have those items gifted, I wouldn’t do it. It is a bit tacky in my opinion. Guests shouldn’t be asked to fund your wedding. 

Post # 8
953 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@fallsgirl:  Flutes I don’t categorize with everything else, because that’s something that you can put on display in your home and use again and again. I suppose if you asked for a silver cake serving set it would be a good gift, but not something you will never use again.

Post # 11
11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think some of the things you have mentioned are okay, while others are not.  

We put toasting flutes, cake server and frames that were all part of a matching set on ours.  They were bought and we used the flutes and cake server at our wedding.  My BFF bought them for us and was excited she was getting things I’d use on that day.  She even had them engraved for us.  That stuff I think is typical and okay, since you will use them after the wedding.

I don’t think an aisle runner or unity candle is appropriate.  I think the guest book and birdcage are on the fence but probably okay.

Hopefully you’ll get some gift cards or cash at your shower to purchase the wedding items  you want.

Post # 12
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I think things that can be reused in your house and could potentially just be for your life together and not for the wedding would be okay. Like the PP who said that they registered for champagne flutes, picture frames, and a cake cutting set, those don’t necessarily have to be wedding things, but an aisle runner maybe not.

I’m not having an aisle runner because one of my bridesmaids is disabled and she had issues walking on one and using her crutch at a previous wedding she was in. As in, she almost fell down while trying to make it down the aisle. So while that’s not relevant to most people’s situations, it’s something to consider.

Do you have friends that have gotten married recently? I’m borrowing my sister’s cake cutting set for my wedding (and she got married 7 years ago but still had it sitting in a drawer). You might know someone with a card box you could borrow too.

Post # 13
10509 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I added toasting flutes and a cake server on mine and my mom got upset.

Post # 14
12103 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014



Post # 16
1592 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

The flutes and a serving set are ok, but not necessary. I can afford them and I don’t want them. You can easily skip everything on your list besides the card holder.

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